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Divorce Mediation Is Not for Everyone – Part 2

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{3:42 minutes to read} When I first met Tom and Amy, they informed me that they had separated about a month earlier, and their 12-year-old daughter, Katie, was living in the marital residence with Amy. Tom said he moved out of the house because Amy asked him to leave. She disputed this and said she [...]

Don’t Try This at Home! Part 1

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{3:30 minutes to read} When I first met Hank and Wilma, Hank provided me with a 3-page typewritten summary of their “agreement.” As is my practice, I then went through the summary with them point by point. The first point of their “agreement” was that Wilma would receive 40% of the combined value of their [...]

Divorce Parenting Classes

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Co-parenting classes can lessen the impact of divorce on children by helping parents recognize the trauma of separation and teaching them how they can ease their children’s transition.

How To Have A Good Divorce

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The phrase “a good divorce” sounds like an oxymoron. It doesn’t seem possible. The word “divorce” comes laden with negativity, fear and judgement.
When we see divorce in the media and the movies it’s overwhelmingly about conflict. Amicable or civil divorces aren’t considered news unless there’s a weirdness factor associated with them such as Gywneth Paltrow’s “Conscious Uncoupling.”
Our own beliefs and expectations (more...)

How To Find Joy In Divorce

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Everyday seems like a struggle during divorce. Learning how to reinvent ourselves, establishing our independence again, and figuring out what we want during this next chapter of our lives is a bit overwhelming. Oftentimes, we may forget to see all the wonderful things that await us.
So often, we get so bogged down with the stress, overwhelm, and emotional roller-coaster that is the end of a marriage that we forget about all the things that we have going for (more...)

What Happens When Marriages Suddenly End?

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Most of us know someone whose spouse one day, out of nowhere said, “That’s it. I’m out of here,” and boom, the marriage was over. It’s hard to accept that it really was without warning. We have a natural tendency to think that surely there must have been some red flags. How could two people married to each other have such a vastly different view of the same marriage? So what&(more...)

How To Help Your Child Through Divorce

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Figuring out how to help your child through divorce can be overwhelming so much so that I’ve known a number of people who keep putting off ending their marriage because it just brings too much stress and anxiety.
Here’s a really handy graphic that covers the most important topics for helping your child. Each of these is worthy of a deeper conversation but this is a really good reminder and easy reference – you could (more...)

Retirement Plan Division – The Basics

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Retirement plans are subject to division through equitable distribution, just as any other marital asset would be. All assets and debts will be divided; bank accounts, time-shares, retirement accounts and even frequent flier miles are subject to distribution.
The first step in dividing a retirement account is to determine how much of the plan is marital property, and thus subject to distribution. Depending on the circumstances, all or a portion of any given retirement plan could be considered separate (more...)

Domestic Violence and Staying Safe – The Details

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Domestic violence. Behind closed doors it secretly bruises the lives of nearly four million wives and children, relatives and friends each year. We’ve all seen the statistics: an estimated 44 million women in the United States are battered each year by their husbands or partners.
Studies show that violence occurs at least once in two-thirds of all marriages. Approximately 95% of the victims of domestic violence are women. And roughly 40% of all physically abused children (more...)

4 of Our Best Financial Tips When Preparing for Divorce

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During marriage, it’s normal to split up responsibilities and duties of the household.  Usually, one spouse handles the paying of bills, credit cards and bank accounts.  I know in my own household growing up, my mother handled the finances because she was more financially conscious and stuck to a tight budget.