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Self Care Strategies For Coping With Divorce

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I was recently invited to collaborate on an expert panel and share some insights on how cope with divorce. Here are my best tips:
My first tip is not to rush into the legal process, unless you have to.
Your spouse is already well into the grieving process and has probably been preparing for the legal process for some time.
They’re emotionally ready for this. You’re not and this puts you at a disadvantage. You (more...)

Top 5 Reasons for Couples Getting Divorced

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Marriage is not an easy relationship. There are several cases when couples started their married life with the best intentions but ended up getting divorced. There could be various reasons for which couples get divorced. Here are some of the most common reasons for couples ending up being in divorce court.
Extra-marital affairs or adultery
According to a report published by AARP, even today, adultery plays a big role in people filing for divorce. But, reports also claim that (more...)

Mel B Takes Restraining Order Out On Stephen Belafonte

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Mel B’s divorce drama just took a sordid turn.
On Monday, former Spice Girl Melanie “Mel B” Brown filed a temporary restraining order against her estranged husband Stephen Belafonte, 41, after claiming domestic abuse during their 10-year marriage. TMZ broke the news of the restraining order.
After filing the court order, authorities told Belafonte to leave the family home in Los Angeles and to keep his distance from their 5-year-old daughter and her (more...)

Choosing Between Mediation vs Litigation vs Collaborative Divorce

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Divorce is never easy, no matter how amicable it is. There are numerous assets and properties that need to be divided, not to mention custody of children and other aspects. In California, a person that files for divorce has 3 ways to proceed – mediation, litigation and a collaborative divorce. There is no universal best choice among the 3 and each method is suitable for certain circumstances.
Mediation
Mediation is the process where a divorcing couple sits with an (more...)

Common Misconceptions About Divorce Mediation in California

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Divorce mediation is an attractive process for California couples that seek to resolve their disputes amicably without the need to have a public battle in court. However, there are still a lot of things that people do not know about divorce mediation and common misconceptions that exist about the topic.
Mediation is the best option
The whole point of an amicable settlement without the divorce going to court sounds attractive to most people, but divorce mediation is not always (more...)

FEAR & THREATS & DIVORCE

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A common theme when approaching divorce is fear. Of course there is fear of the unknown, but what about the fear that results from spousal threats?
The BEST OF list of COMMONLY HEARD THREATS:
“I will tell the court that you—had an affair, use anti-anxiety medication, have a couple of glasses of wine in a day. I will get sole custody and you will lose the kids.” The standard the court considers is ‘the (more...)

How To Know It’s Time To End Your Marriage

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We all know that relationships need nurturing to make them last but how do you know you’ve reached the point when no amount of care will make the relationship right? When is enough, enough?  When things are not going to change for the better?
The decision to end a marriage is rarely easy – most people with whom I’ve talked, agonize over this for months, sometimes years. No one wants to make the wrong (more...)

What Do You Know About Forgiveness After Divorce?

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No one comes through divorce without feeling pain and hurt. That’s as true for people who initiate the divorce as it is for people whose spouse made the decision. That pain and hurt could be caused by our spouse, by a third party (and that’s not limited to infidelity) and we can cause it ourselves.
Without working through that pain and hurt, there’s a very real danger of becoming bitter and resentful – (more...)

How Does Having a Criminal Record Affect Child Custody During Divorce?

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If there are children involved in a divorce and there is a battle over which spouse gets custody of the child or children, then either spouse having a criminal past or record can lower or even completely eliminate their chances of getting joint/shared or sole custody of the child. Also, one spouse can use the past criminal record or history of the other spouse to eliminate their chances of child custody and even rights of visitation. This is (more...)

What Are Men’s Rights to Spousal Support in California?

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Society and the courts have traditionally always favored women in cases of divorce settlement. It is usually the woman who claims alimony from her spouse post-divorce. But in reality, this is not a fair method of determining who has to pay spousal support to whom. In a relationship the woman may be in a better financial position than the man and in such cases the woman may be be required to pay alimony to her ex-husband.
Men’s (more...)