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How To Avoid A Mistake When You Decide Where To Live After Divorce

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Figuring out where to live after divorce is often very unsettling and is the issue that causes the most upheaval. While you and your STBX are discussing what happens to the marital home, you feel in a state of limbo, uncertain where life will take you. That makes it hard to make other decisions and yet, at least one of you is going to have to move.
Here you are, in the middle of one of life’s (more...)

Co-Parenting with an Abusive Ex-Spouse

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Co-Parenting with Former Domestic Violence Abuser

Domestic violence is a painful and often traumatic experience that victims do not want to relive once they finally leave.  When you have children with your abuser however, it may feel like you are forced to continue to endure the trauma of the abusive relationship even after divorce. In many cases parents are ordered to co-parent regardless of abuse or domestic violence between parents. While this is grounded in the well-intentioned desire (more...)

Are You Sure About Divorce? These 8 Dates Will Help You

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When you make the decision to end your marriage, you want to be sure about divorce. No one wants to make a mistake.
For some people, while it is a hard decision and not something they wanted, it becomes clear that divorce is what needs to happen. Often, these situations involve domestic abuse, addictions and infidelity.
For many other people the decision is much more challenging: they get along OK with their spouse, they parent OK together, they’(more...)

Child Custody Statutes

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Child custody statutes. Click one to see an in depth description.

§ 50-11.1. Children born of voidable marriage legitimate.

§ 50-11.2. Judgment provisions pertaining to care, custody, tuition and maintenance of minor children.

§ 50‑13.1. Action or proceeding for custody of minor child.

§ 50-13.2. Who entitled to custody; terms of custody; visitation rights of grandparents; taking child out of State

§ 50-13.2A. Action for visitation of an adopted grandchild

§ 50-13.(more...)

Are You In An Abusive Relationship?

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Last night was the Super Bowl, so today seemed like an opportune time to publish this post, written by an anonymous author who was in an abusive relationship.
I know, I know… it’s a myth that Super Bowl Sunday spikes the highest incidence of domestic violence. But still, I have to believe that drinking and partying and football can lead to domestic violence and abuse in a relationship. Even more important, EVERY day, domestic violence is (more...)

Can I Ask for a Custody Modification if the Other Parent Puts Our Child in Childcare During Custody Time?

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A very common occurrence these days is for working parents to place their children in childcare during custody time in Oklahoma because they have to be at work during normally scheduled custody.
For example, a father works on Saturdays because he is a cars salesman, and Saturdays are when he earns most of his commission for the month. However, the mother remains at home and is unhappy that the children are at their father’s house being watched (more...)

Divorcing From an Abusive Spouse When you Have a Child Together

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Divorce doesn’t happen overnight. This
fact will undoubtedly make some grumble, but for those living with abusive
spouses it can cause terror and panic. Domestic violence has devastating
effects not only on the victim spouse but also on any child involved in such a
marriage. These children will experience their own share of devastation even
when they are not the target of the violence. As a result, there are some steps
that must be taken to protect (more...)

After Molly Russell What Are The A-B-C’s of Keeping Your Kids Safe Online?

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I was really distressed to read about the tragic suicide of Molly Russell: The ‘caring soul’ who died after exploring her depression on Instagram.
Suicide is now the leading cause of death for young people under 20 and levels of self-harm are rising among teenage girls in particular.
I was interviewed on BBC Radio Oxford recently about what can be done. There’s not a quick fix as it’s a complex problem.
But none (more...)

Dating After Divorce: Advice, Tips, and Why This Is An Exciting Time!

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            Dating after divorce is something many people dread (I definitely dreaded it 11 years ago.) In fact, a lot of couples decide to stay together (not get divorced) because neither wants to start dating again. I mean, isn’t that why you got married in the first place? Because you enjoyed monogamy and didn’t want to go on awkward, uncomfortable dates anymore? So, why would (more...)

What are My Rights to Owning a Gun If I Have a Protective Order Against Me in Oklahoma?

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When an individual requests a protective order, many times the offender whom the protective order controls, is not aware of the additional consequences of the order. There are provisions the offender must follow in addition to staying away from the victim and their place of residence and employment. 
One of the requirements the offender must follow is to surrender all firearms as well as being prohibited from purchasing any additional firearms.
What is Considered a Firearm?
Due to (more...)