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What are My Rights to Owning a Gun If I Have a Protective Order Against Me in Oklahoma?

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When an individual requests a protective order, many times the offender whom the protective order controls, is not aware of the additional consequences of the order. There are provisions the offender must follow in addition to staying away from the victim and their place of residence and employment. 
One of the requirements the offender must follow is to surrender all firearms as well as being prohibited from purchasing any additional firearms.
What is Considered a Firearm?
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How to Quickly Recognize Narcissistic Personality Disorder in Your Partner

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Narcissistic personality disorder is a condition in which the person drowns in self-love, seeing everyone else and anything else as unimportant. A narcissist lacks empathy towards others. He/she focuses on feelings of self-importance, self-admiration, and grandiosity, often crushing all chances of emotional connections, friendships, and relationships. Very few people can endure a marriage with a narcissistic person. These are marriages often shrouded with either selfishness, self-hate, shame, verbal and/or even physical abuse.

Does Domestic Violence Affect Child Custody Determinations?

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Domestic violence is always a consideration in a child custody decision, especially if the victim was the child of the parent or partner of the offender. The presence of any violence in the home questions whether it is in the child’s best interest to reside in that home, as indicated in Oklahoma law Title 43 §112.2. 
Domestic Violence Presumption
Under the above referenced statute, a presumption has been established in Oklahoma stating that an (more...)

Do I Have Rights as a Grandparent in Oklahoma Child Custody Decisions?

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The bond between a grandparent and a grandchild can be immensely strong. The thought of their grandchild not having the best life possible can be unthinkable. There are certain situations where the grandparents think it is in the child’s best interest to live with them and be awarded visitation, joint custody or sole custody. 
We review the requirements that must be met for grandparents to ask their child custody attorney to petition for child custody and (more...)

What’s Your Relationship With Money?

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Divorce can feel like quite a shock to the system. Everything you thought you knew has changed. It may cause many to reevaluate their relationships with friends, family and themselves. You may also reevaluate your relationship with money.
Because of the financial strain of divorce, and the division of assets, it may become apparent that you have strong emotions around money. In fact, finances could be the reason for the strain in your marriage.
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There Is No Easy Or Quick Way To Heal From Divorce

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We all need to heal from divorce. That applies just as much to the person who initiates the divorce as the person whose spouse makes the decision.
The healing process stirs up a lot of feelings and hurts from our childhood and family of origin, our societal and cultural norms and expectations and, of course from the marriage itself and previous committed relationships.
It’s no wonder many people avoid the work of healing! Yet, if you skip (more...)

Is He Your Transitional Man Or Is He The One?

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What is a transitional relationship and how can they help you find love? A transitional man (or woman) is the first significant relationship that usually comes after a long term relationship or marriage. They are someone who helps you find your footing, after a difficult breakup.
I began thinking about my transitional man when I had a conversation with a group of women about divorce, relationships and love. We began talking about the men we had dated and realized (more...)

What Evidence Do You Need to Prove Your Child is Being Abused By the Other Parent?

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If you suspect your child is being abused by their other parent, you must collect sufficient evidence as soon as possible. However, because this is your child, collecting the evidence should be done in such a way that it does not harm your child’s well-being. 

Before You Start Collecting Evidence to Prove Your Child is Being Abused

If your child is with you and discloses they were abused or you notice signs of abuse on (more...)

Financial Abuse is Domestic Abuse

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Many of us instinctively think of domestic abuse as being physical. Society and the mental health field are increasingly recognizing emotional abuse as another form of control. Another form of domestic abuse, that can be quite damaging although it is less recognized, is financial abuse.
Domestic abuse, physical, emotional and financial, is about power and control. When an intimate partner exercises control over your access to money and the way you spend your money, you may feel powerless and (more...)

The Difference Between Being Needy In A Relationship and Having Needs Is Huge

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Ever know someone who was needy in a relationship? Perhaps an ex? Or maybe you? Let’s talk about it.
I was talking with a client who has been in the dating scene since he got divorced several years ago, and has been really working on understanding what he needs in a relationship. He is finding that his needs get clearer once he is in a relationship, because it allows him to really look at what makes for (more...)