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What’s Your Relationship With Money?

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Divorce can feel like quite a shock to the system. Everything you thought you knew has changed. It may cause many to reevaluate their relationships with friends, family and themselves. You may also reevaluate your relationship with money.
Because of the financial strain of divorce, and the division of assets, it may become apparent that you have strong emotions around money. In fact, finances could be the reason for the strain in your marriage.
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There Is No Easy Or Quick Way To Heal From Divorce

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We all need to heal from divorce. That applies just as much to the person who initiates the divorce as the person whose spouse makes the decision.
The healing process stirs up a lot of feelings and hurts from our childhood and family of origin, our societal and cultural norms and expectations and, of course from the marriage itself and previous committed relationships.
It’s no wonder many people avoid the work of healing! Yet, if you skip (more...)

Is He Your Transitional Man Or Is He The One?

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What is a transitional relationship and how can they help you find love? A transitional man (or woman) is the first significant relationship that usually comes after a long term relationship or marriage. They are someone who helps you find your footing, after a difficult breakup.
I began thinking about my transitional man when I had a conversation with a group of women about divorce, relationships and love. We began talking about the men we had dated and realized (more...)

What Evidence Do You Need to Prove Your Child is Being Abused By the Other Parent?

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If you suspect your child is being abused by their other parent, you must collect sufficient evidence as soon as possible. However, because this is your child, collecting the evidence should be done in such a way that it does not harm your child’s well-being. 

Before You Start Collecting Evidence to Prove Your Child is Being Abused

If your child is with you and discloses they were abused or you notice signs of abuse on (more...)

Financial Abuse is Domestic Abuse

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Many of us instinctively think of domestic abuse as being physical. Society and the mental health field are increasingly recognizing emotional abuse as another form of control. Another form of domestic abuse, that can be quite damaging although it is less recognized, is financial abuse.
Domestic abuse, physical, emotional and financial, is about power and control. When an intimate partner exercises control over your access to money and the way you spend your money, you may feel powerless and (more...)

The Difference Between Being Needy In A Relationship and Having Needs Is Huge

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Ever know someone who was needy in a relationship? Perhaps an ex? Or maybe you? Let’s talk about it.
I was talking with a client who has been in the dating scene since he got divorced several years ago, and has been really working on understanding what he needs in a relationship. He is finding that his needs get clearer once he is in a relationship, because it allows him to really look at what makes for (more...)

What Do I Do If the Other Parent Accuses Me of Child Abuse in OK?

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If you are accused of child physical abuse or sexual abuse in Oklahoma, the first step is to read this article. Then, start interviewing child custody attorneys as soon as possible. Handling a case like this quickly and aggressively allows your child custody attorney to effectively defend you and accomplish a successful win on your behalf. 
Hire an Experienced Child Custody Attorney
Contacting a child support attorney right away will help you get ahead of the accusations and (more...)

False Allegations In Divorce Must Stop

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The Kavanaugh allegations have put the seriousness and devastation of sexual misconduct and assault, and the importance of justice in those situations to the forefront of America and I’m glad about that. No one who has been a victim of sexual misconduct or assault should go unheard, and no one who is a perpetrator should go unpunished. All that said, the Kavanaugh situation has also put something else into the spotlight that I think is extremely meaningful (more...)

How to Trust Again When You’re Devastated

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Nobody likes being betrayed and losing trust. And when that betrayal comes from a spouse, which may be one of the reasons for your divorce, the results can make you feel terrible.
It’s a crappy weight to have on your shoulders. Similar to its other invasive cousins, anger,  guilt, and resentment, losing trust keeps you from getting your life back.
But like all the other feelings, you have the power to break free (more...)

Why Couldn’t He Change For Me?

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One of the most difficult aspects of a break up or a divorce is seeing the other person become involved with someone else, and not only appearing to be blissfully happy, but appearing to be the perfect spouse! It’s crazy, it’s infuriating, it’s hard to comprehend. Now he’s doing all these things with this other woman—things YOU desperately wanted him to do, but he wouldn’t. So, you&(more...)