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Could You Pa$$ a Financial Literacy Test?

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Money – if we fight about it when we’re married, we’ll likely fight over it when we’re getting divorced.  It is one of the single most divisive, yet necessary things in life.  For some, the biggest issue is how to get enough money, but for many, it’s simply a matter of learning how to make the most of what we have.  Of course, for anyone facing divorce, it (more...)

How To Better Manage Your Credit Score Through Your Divorce

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Figuring out how to better manage your credit score through your divorce sounds like a boring topic and I would tell you that a boring credit score is a good thing and especially during the end of your marriage.
BUT, that’s often not what’s going on in divorce. Frequently, this is when people are looking at their credit scores and freaking out when they start to see the impact of closed accounts and missed payments. (more...)

After Divorce, What Would Marie Kondo Say About Your Wedding Memorabilia?

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After a divorce, it can be challenging to discard anything that reminded you of your marriage. If you wanted the divorce, it may feel healing to blow up or trash your wedding dress once the papers are filed. For others, especially those with children, you may decide to save some wedding memorabilia for their memories or special day. The next decisions you must make are what to save and what to discard.
Have you considered the KonMari method of (more...)

Are You Sure About Divorce? These 8 Dates Will Help You

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When you make the decision to end your marriage, you want to be sure about divorce. No one wants to make a mistake.
For some people, while it is a hard decision and not something they wanted, it becomes clear that divorce is what needs to happen. Often, these situations involve domestic abuse, addictions and infidelity.
For many other people the decision is much more challenging: they get along OK with their spouse, they parent OK together, they’(more...)

Divorce Advice: 5 Great Tips for Handling Conflict with Your Ex

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Do you envy those separated parents who still act like best friends? What divorce advice do those ex-couples know who can go out on family outings together like there is no bad blood between them?
If you know any divorced couples who act like this, then they are truly lucky, because most divorced couples can’t stand the sight of one another. Not every post-divorce relationship is going to be ideal. It will take a lot of (more...)

Divorce Advice In The Form Of A Fictitious Novel

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They say “Write about what you know,” which I think is why there are countless books written on the subject of divorce. But not every author offers divorce advice via a memoir or a non-fiction guide book. Lots of writers, including Jackie Pilossoph, decided to write a novel after divorce. My reason for writing a novel (versus a guide book) is that I wanted to offer support, advice and inspiration in a fun, entertaining way. So, when (more...)

Helpful Books For People Contemplating Divorce

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This is a guest post by divorce attorney, Anna Krolikowska, offering 7 books for those contemplating divorce or going through one. I know Anna personally and think she is a smart, compassionate and wonderful attorney. Here is her article:
Helpful Books For People Contemplating Divorce
by Anna Krolikowska
 
I am a family law attorney.  In my practice I work with clients who are contemplating or pursuing divorce, or clients who are in the process of crafting their (more...)

What Should I Bring With Me to the First Family Law Attorney Meeting in Tulsa?

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For many, the idea of your first family law attorney meeting in Tulsa can be overwhelming — and a little intimidating.
If you are going through a divorce or child custody action, you probably know very little of the procedures involved. In contrast, divorces and child custody cases are what your soon-to-be family law attorney works on every day and went to years of schooling to perfect.
However, your family law attorney is there to help you and be (more...)

The Importance Of Asking For What You Want In A Relationship

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A huge issue in a faltering romantic relationship is when one or both people stop communicating effectively. One aspect of this is when instead of coming out and asking for things they want, hold everything inside and then become angry and resentful toward the other person because they aren’t getting what they want/need. Asking for what you want in a relationship is the topic of this week’s Love Essentially, published in the Chicago Tribune (more...)

Grieving A Divorce? No One Should Tell You How To Feel

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Editors note: I read this wonderful article by Lisa and thought it applied so well to those who might be grieving a divorce. I remember people saying things like, “You’re going to be fine,” “You should be glad it happened now while you’re still young and you can get remarried,” or “Stop feeling sorry for yourself. At least you’re not sick and dying.” I realize they were (more...)