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The Two Biggest Obstacles In Forgiving A Cheater

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Readers email me frequently, asking for advice on what to do after a spouse cheats. Some of them want to try to work it out, while others are vehemently headed for divorce court. But a lot of spouses are unsure, and their indecision on whether they should stay or leave can go on for months, even years. Although I usually have an opinion on what I think someone should do, I don’t like to give it. Instead, (more...)

A Guide To Minimizing Divorce Attorney’s Fees

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This is a guest post by divorce attorney, Beth F. McCormack, who offers advice on managing your divorce, thereby minimizing divorce attorney’s fees.
A Guide To Minimizing Divorce Attorney’s Fees
By Beth F. McCormack
Going through a divorce is one of the most painful and stressful times a person might go through in his or her life.  In addition to the emotional toll, the financial impact can be devastating.  A common client complaint (more...)

Can’t Get Over A Past Relationship?

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What Do You Do When You Can’t Let Go Of A Past Relationship?
By Jackie Pilossoph for Chicago Tribune Media Group
You haven’t laughed in weeks. Pain, loneliness and tears have become part of your normal, everyday life. And hopelessness envelops your soul because the thought of ever finding love again seems impossible.
Ever been in this place after a bad breakup? I sure have.
 

 
Fortunately, and even though it might take some (more...)

Four Emotional Benefits of She Sheds

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She sheds offer emotional benefits, keep relationships healthy
by Jackie Pilossoph for Chicago Tribune Media Group
When Cindy Holmes-Fine and her husband moved in together five years ago, their blended family consisted of five kids, all still living at home. Although very happy to have such a large and loving family, Holmes-Fine felt like there were times she needed and wanted some space; alone time, a reprieve, an escape.
Her solution: A “she shed.”
 

 
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Is An Uncontested Divorce Possible For You?

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The Basics of Uncontested Divorce
An uncontested divorce is one where all of the issues are settled without litigation by attorneys. It requires a couple to agree on all the important points, such as alimony, child custody, and how to divide their property. This is typically the best-case scenario because the divorce will be over quicker, and legal fees will be lower with less for lawyers to do in court.
A contested divorce is the opposite. Strong disagreements between (more...)

Why “He Just Doesn’t Make Me Happy” Is An Unhealthy Thought

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Have you ever heard this saying, “Happy wife, happy life?” Or, “It’s my job to make my husband happy?” Or, “He just doesn’t make me happy?” I so often hear people talking about being responsible for someone else’s happiness or holding someone responsible for their satisfaction in life. Think about the pressure of that statement, but also the lack of personal responsibility.

If someone else is responsible (more...)

The Difference Between Being Needy In A Relationship and Having Needs Is Huge

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Ever know someone who was needy in a relationship? Perhaps an ex? Or maybe you? Let’s talk about it.
I was talking with a client who has been in the dating scene since he got divorced several years ago, and has been really working on understanding what he needs in a relationship. He is finding that his needs get clearer once he is in a relationship, because it allows him to really look at what makes for (more...)

Advice For: “We’re Getting Divorced Because My Husband No Longer Wants Children”

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When two people decide they want to get married, I think most discuss whether or not they are on the same page for many, many major life decisions. This includes whether or not to have kids and maybe even how many. But what happens when you get married, and your spouse decides later that he or she changed their mind? Your wife or husband no longer wants children. How devastating would this be??
 
The issue can become major, (more...)

What To Know About Dividing Antiques In A Divorce

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Other than your home, considerable joint property exists in valuable items present in your home. Similar to the appraisal of the real estate before your divorce, it is a good idea to appraise the personal property as well. This is as the total value of your personal property can add up to a large amount. Only after you determine the total value, can you decide upon a fair property division. An appraisal of personal property can assist to insure (more...)

False Allegations In Divorce Must Stop

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The Kavanaugh allegations have put the seriousness and devastation of sexual misconduct and assault, and the importance of justice in those situations to the forefront of America and I’m glad about that. No one who has been a victim of sexual misconduct or assault should go unheard, and no one who is a perpetrator should go unpunished. All that said, the Kavanaugh situation has also put something else into the spotlight that I think is extremely meaningful (more...)