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Helpful Books For People Contemplating Divorce

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This is a guest post by divorce attorney, Anna Krolikowska, offering 7 books for those contemplating divorce or going through one. I know Anna personally and think she is a smart, compassionate and wonderful attorney. Here is her article:
Helpful Books For People Contemplating Divorce
by Anna Krolikowska
 
I am a family law attorney.  In my practice I work with clients who are contemplating or pursuing divorce, or clients who are in the process of crafting their (more...)

What Should I Bring With Me to the First Family Law Attorney Meeting in Tulsa?

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For many, the idea of your first family law attorney meeting in Tulsa can be overwhelming — and a little intimidating.
If you are going through a divorce or child custody action, you probably know very little of the procedures involved. In contrast, divorces and child custody cases are what your soon-to-be family law attorney works on every day and went to years of schooling to perfect.
However, your family law attorney is there to help you and be (more...)

The Importance Of Asking For What You Want In A Relationship

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A huge issue in a faltering romantic relationship is when one or both people stop communicating effectively. One aspect of this is when instead of coming out and asking for things they want, hold everything inside and then become angry and resentful toward the other person because they aren’t getting what they want/need. Asking for what you want in a relationship is the topic of this week’s Love Essentially, published in the Chicago Tribune (more...)

Grieving A Divorce? No One Should Tell You How To Feel

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Editors note: I read this wonderful article by Lisa and thought it applied so well to those who might be grieving a divorce. I remember people saying things like, “You’re going to be fine,” “You should be glad it happened now while you’re still young and you can get remarried,” or “Stop feeling sorry for yourself. At least you’re not sick and dying.” I realize they were (more...)

3 Really Bad Reasons For Staying In An Unhealthy Marriage

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 Here’s a synopsis of a reader considering either getting divorced or staying in an unhealthy marriage:
 
She 27 years old, and she and her husband have been together for about a decade. He’s a student and she has been working and supporting him financially almost the entire time. She said one problem with the marriage is that the only thing they do together is watch TV.
 
I’m starting to feel (more...)

6 Tips To Getting A Mortgage After Divorce

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When I was going through my divorce several years ago, amongst the countless worries that kept me up at night was the fact that I wanted to stay in my home. But, even if I was fortunate enough to get the house in the divorce settlement, how would I go about getting a mortgage after divorce? I knew little about the process, AND I was not employed at the time. It was beyond stressful.
 
Jeremy Woods is a (more...)

The Brutal Pain Of Divorce And 7 Reasons You Should Never Give Up On Happiness

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I cannot describe how heartbreaking I feel when I read comments on Divorced Girl Smiling like this one, that unveil the brutal pain of divorce:
 
How do you shake the “never want to wake up” feeling? I’m so miserable. Every single day is pain and I just want to give up.
 
Before I offer my advice for those feeling the brutal pain of divorce and why you should never give up on being (more...)

Does Guy Having An Emotional Affair With His Boss Deserve Another Chance?

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Any kind of cheating is awful. Feeling betrayed is painful, heart wrenching and terribly disappointing. But I personally think it might be harder for a couple to come back from having an emotional affair. Here is one reader’s story:
My husband and I have been together for 13 years and married for a little over a year. months.
Two months ago, he began constantly texting his (female) supervisor. They sent hundreds upon hundreds of texts a week. (more...)

How To Get Through Your Divorce Hearing With Ease

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Going through a divorce is tough. You’re already dealing with the emotional fallout of separating from your loved one, and now you have to deal with an actual court hearing.
If this prospect fills you with anxiety and dread, don’t worry, you’re not alone.
Divorce hearings can be scary, especially because there is so much at stake. Not only are you headed into the professional world of lawyers and the unknown, but you (more...)

Divorcing From an Abusive Spouse When you Have a Child Together

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Divorce doesn’t happen overnight. This
fact will undoubtedly make some grumble, but for those living with abusive
spouses it can cause terror and panic. Domestic violence has devastating
effects not only on the victim spouse but also on any child involved in such a
marriage. These children will experience their own share of devastation even
when they are not the target of the violence. As a result, there are some steps
that must be taken to protect (more...)