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After Molly Russell What Are The A-B-C’s of Keeping Your Kids Safe Online?

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I was really distressed to read about the tragic suicide of Molly Russell: The ‘caring soul’ who died after exploring her depression on Instagram.
Suicide is now the leading cause of death for young people under 20 and levels of self-harm are rising among teenage girls in particular.
I was interviewed on BBC Radio Oxford recently about what can be done. There’s not a quick fix as it’s a complex problem.
But none (more...)

Dating After Divorce: Advice, Tips, and Why This Is An Exciting Time!

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            Dating after divorce is something many people dread (I definitely dreaded it 11 years ago.) In fact, a lot of couples decide to stay together (not get divorced) because neither wants to start dating again. I mean, isn’t that why you got married in the first place? Because you enjoyed monogamy and didn’t want to go on awkward, uncomfortable dates anymore? So, why would (more...)

In Life After Divorce, Don’t Play Small

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Does life after divorce and a lack of confidence have you playing small? 
by Shannon McGorry
 
“There is no passion to be found playing small – in settling for a life that is less than the one you are capable of living.” – Nelson Mandela
That is one of my favorite quotes and I share it because it helps light the spark in me, and my hope is that it does the same for you.
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A Divorced Woman’s Really Bad Date

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One of my friends recently began online dating after divorce. She met a guy on Bumble a couple weeks ago and they went out last weekend. Turns out, it was a pretty bad date. I tell her story and offer my advice in this week’s Love Essentially.
When Did Men Stop Being Gentlemen? 
by Jackie Pilossoph for Chicago Tribune Media Group
When it comes to men, I’m old school. I like a gentleman. I (more...)

Dating A Married Man? Listen To This Story!

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What’s the definition of dating a married man? In my opinion, there are several.
1. There is the technically married man who is going through a divorce—it just isn’t final. Ask anyone who ever got divorced, it takes a long time.
2. Then there’s the married man who is separated, but still deciding if he is in or out of the marriage.
3. There’s also the married man who (more...)

Was 2018 The Worst Year Of Your Life?

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I remember reading someone’s Facebook post last year on December 31st, and it read, “Good-bye 2017, I WON’T miss you at all.” Apparently, 2017 was not a good year for her. While I understand the post—her husband left her in early January, 2017 and she was going through a divorce that entire year, I think she had to have surgery—minor surgery in 2017, and one of her parents died (more...)

How Many People Have You Slept With? Do Numbers Really Matter?

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I have a friend who is in his fifties who travels a lot for work. So, he’s on planes every week. He told me that he was bored on a flight one time, so he decided to get a pen and a piece of paper and write down every woman he’s ever had sex with. He said the number was over 75 and he thinks he left out some women. The first word that came (more...)

Separated But Living In The Same House…And Sleeping In The Same Bed

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 When a couple decides to separate, there are so many factors involved in what comes next. There are couples in which one person decides to move out immediately. There are couples who sell the home and both find new residences. And, there are couples who are separated but living in the same house.
 
There are a few reasons a couple might decide to remain living together for awhile. Perhaps the biggest reason: the kids. Maybe they want (more...)

Putting Your Children First During Divorce.

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I’ve been recently working with a couple who are divorcing and we were looking at how to handle the new roles that both these parents now  face whilst going through the transition.
One area I discussed with them was accepting that their ex has a continued role to play in their child’s life which is not the same as being required still to like, or admire that person.
Children don’t need to (more...)

The top 10 signs that may mean you’re heading for divorce

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I’ve been catching up on ‘Coldfeet’ before the new season starts as I never watched it the first time it was on, and what strikes me watching and following the lives of these 3 couples is just how untidy life can be.
Relationships are never easy at the best of times. Despite all our best efforts, hopes, dreams and expectations, sometimes our ducks really don’t seem to line up the way we’(more...)