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Marriage on the rocks? Call the ‘Divorce Experts

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We’ve been getting wonderful coverage around our new idea of creating a safe space to become empowered and nurtured during a time of great upheaval – namely a divorce, break up or bereavement.
The Suddenly Single Retreats
We’ve been in The Daily Telegraph and today we are in Femail in The Daily Mail
Here’s the Femail article
‘Four years ago I used to wake up at 3am, transfixed with fear, wondering where (more...)

Desperately Looking To Meet Someone? This Article Is For YOU

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I work with and personally know so many people who are desperately looking to meet someone; to find their “soulmates”, and who feel a sense of emptiness and loneliness because they are not part of a couple.
Generally, finding love later in life can be difficult. As we age, we have to assume that each of us is “fully baked” when you meet.  Trying to mold and shape someone who has already lived a (more...)

4 Questions That Will Take Your Life In A New Direction After Divorce

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Life is full of change.
Sometimes it’s a welcome change like getting married or having a baby.
Sometimes it’s not so welcome like being made redundant or getting divorced.
Sometimes it’s simply part of life when children leave home and you feel bereft and question your role in life.
Whatever the circumstances change is a shift in your life situation, and it is a journey that people react to differently.
It can be (more...)

Divorcing And Not Working? You Might Regret It

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If you’re divorcing and not working, you might regret it. Why?
Standard advice used to be not to go back to work as it would likely impact the alimony you’d receive and not just the amount but also the duration.
You’ll rarely hear that advice these days. Gone are the days of lifetime maintenance, and if you’re not working you’re at risk of being treated as voluntarily unemployed. That (more...)

Two Perspectives: “I Left My Husband” Versus “My Wife Left Me”

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From someone who has been receiving emails and comments from readers for almost 6 years, I can say with certainty that I’ve heard tens of thousands of heartbreaking stories having to do with marital problems, divorce, and dating and relationships. When it comes to the people who write me about divorce, the two most common scenarios are: “I left my husband” or “My wife left me.”
I’m not saying men don&(more...)

Christmas Day While Going Through A Divorce

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Christmas day while going through divorce: devastating? sad? lonely? upsetting? painful? awkward? longing? will never be the same? There are so many feelings on this day…
 
If you are newly separated…
This might be a tough day for you. Please know that God is with you, and that your family, your kids, your friends and other people you know love and care deeply for you. Next year at this time, life will look a lot different, (more...)

Relationship Advice: Looking Back at 2018

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2018 was the busiest and most productive year of my career. I traveled seventeen weekends to train others to become life and executive coaches, I led communication and women’s leadership courses, and I worked with my individual life and executive clients. I certainly hope they all benefited from their time with me. However, I’m pretty sure that I’m the one who learned the most from them. Here is some relationship advice, based on (more...)

Woman Cheated On: ‘He Looked In My Eyes And Lied And Knew I Would Believe Him’

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Here are excerpts from an email I received from a single mom who was cheated on. The woman dated this guy for 8 years. Seven months ago, she found out he cheated on her for the last year of their relationship, basically living two lives. He ended up choosing to be with the other woman.
 
I asked him 5 times over the last year if he was seeing anyone else and he said no. 
 
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Discipline During Divorce – Keep It Consistent.

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I work with lots of parents anxious about their children when the family is going through divorce. My simple advice is to ‘Keep It Consistent.’ Children thrive on consistency and even more so during the stressful and challenging time of divorce and separation. So keep as many things the same as you can, as it helps your child feel nurtured and surrounded by stability in a very fast and highly changing environment.
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Why You Should Educate Yourself About Divorce Before Taking the Plunge

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The decision to get a divorce will be one of the biggest and most consequential choices of your life. Your divorce will directly impact your finances, your quality of living, the lives of your children, and your own emotional health. Maybe you’ve already decided that a divorce is the right choice for you, or perhaps you are unhappy in your marriage and may be considering divorce for the first time. Either way, before you make the plunge, (more...)