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Understanding The Stepfamily Cycle.

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Blended Families
The Stepfamily Cycle
I have been working with a lovely family who are finding it hard to adjust to the changes that blending two families together brings.
I always remind my clients that bringing together 2 separate families is a process and not an event, and it takes time and flexibility on everyone’s behalf to settle into new family relationships.
It’s about managing your expectations and keeping the lines of communication open.
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Why It’s Wrong To Think You’re Not A Family After Divorce

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A common reason for not wanting to end a marriage is not to break up the family but that’s flawed logic. It’s wrong to think you’re not a family after divorce.
Ask people who are post-divorce and they’ll tell you that they are still a family, they’re just a little different now.
This tells us two things: being in a family is important to many people and the concept (more...)

How an Oklahoma Prenuptial Agreement Can Actually Help Couples Before Marriage

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Prenuptial agreements, also known as “prenups” and “antenuptial agreements,” have always received bad press and negative connotations. However, prenups have become more common in recent years, especially for second marriages, blended families, and individuals who are concerned about protecting a separate business, family gifts or inheritance. 
Antenuptial agreements are commonly believed to be a negative occurrence prior to marriage because they are predicated on the couple eventually divorces. This is a common misunderstanding that (more...)

Four Emotional Benefits of She Sheds

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She sheds offer emotional benefits, keep relationships healthy
by Jackie Pilossoph for Chicago Tribune Media Group
When Cindy Holmes-Fine and her husband moved in together five years ago, their blended family consisted of five kids, all still living at home. Although very happy to have such a large and loving family, Holmes-Fine felt like there were times she needed and wanted some space; alone time, a reprieve, an escape.
Her solution: A “she shed.”
 

 
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Melissa Forman Gives Tips For Blended Families

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Melissa Forman is a well-loved local radio and TV personality in Chicago. I’ve listened to her for decades, and I was even a guest on her TV show a few years ago, but I never knew much about her family until I ran into her at a high school tennis tournament where both of our daughters were playing. We started talking, and the conversation led to me writing my Love Essentially column about Melissa’s love (more...)

The DivorceTown® Help and Hope Seminar / Protect Yourself!

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Don’t Become Another Scary Divorce Story!
…Receive Financial, Emotional & Legal Support 
Friday, October 19, 2018
11:30 AM – 1:30 PM
Olive Garden
2467 Cobb Parkway SE
Smyrna, GA 30080
Get Your Tickets Here!LUNCH IS INCLUDED with your ticket purchase
Don’t Be Haunted By Your Divorce!  You CAN Avoid These Common, Costly Mistakes
Are you aware…
Your Ex Could Inherit Everything You Own Without This Final Plan.
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How Do Oklahoma Courts Assign Debt in a Contested Divorce?

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Debts and liabilities are some of the most common items that must be divided and assigned to each spouse during a divorce.
In Oklahoma, courts use the concept of “equitable division” to divide both assets and debts. This is how courts assign debt in divorce.
The most important step the court takes first is to determine whether the debt is marital debt or separate personal debt. After this determination the court will then assign the debt using (more...)

The Dynamics Of The Step Family

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​I. The Stepfamily Cannot and Will Not Function as Does a Biological FamilyThe stepfamily has its own specific dynamics and behaviors.Since we know no other there is a tendency to overlay the expectations and dynamics of the biological family on to the new stepfamily.II. There is No Replacing the Biological ParentIn the stepfamily we cannot reconstitute the biological family. Mother and father are hallowed words and are determined by biological connections. A child often almost (more...)

Family Photos Vitally Important for Children of Divorce

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By Rosalind Sedacca, CCTI read a poignant comment on a blog recently written by a married mother of three. She was a child of divorce whose father moved out of the home when she was four. She talks about having very few pictures of herself as a child and only one of her mother and father together. Her grandfather found and gave her the photo just a few years ago. She framed it and has proudly displayed it in (more...)

Divorced? 4 Valuable Life Lessons to Help You Move On!

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By Rosalind Sedacca, CCTThe aftermath of divorce can be a sense of self-discovery or internment in a self-made prison of depression and resentment. It’s all about our acceptance of what is and determination to use the divorce as a pathway to a new and better life. The good news: it’s all up to us. We can create an attitude of positive expectation or we can subjugate ourselves to months and years of self-pity and despair (more...)