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The Dynamics Of The Step Family

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​I. The Stepfamily Cannot and Will Not Function as Does a Biological FamilyThe stepfamily has its own specific dynamics and behaviors.Since we know no other there is a tendency to overlay the expectations and dynamics of the biological family on to the new stepfamily.II. There is No Replacing the Biological ParentIn the stepfamily we cannot reconstitute the biological family. Mother and father are hallowed words and are determined by biological connections. A child often almost (more...)

Family Photos Vitally Important for Children of Divorce

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By Rosalind Sedacca, CCTI read a poignant comment on a blog recently written by a married mother of three. She was a child of divorce whose father moved out of the home when she was four. She talks about having very few pictures of herself as a child and only one of her mother and father together. Her grandfather found and gave her the photo just a few years ago. She framed it and has proudly displayed it in (more...)

Divorced? 4 Valuable Life Lessons to Help You Move On!

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By Rosalind Sedacca, CCTThe aftermath of divorce can be a sense of self-discovery or internment in a self-made prison of depression and resentment. It’s all about our acceptance of what is and determination to use the divorce as a pathway to a new and better life. The good news: it’s all up to us. We can create an attitude of positive expectation or we can subjugate ourselves to months and years of self-pity and despair (more...)

Blended Family Holiday Tips & Tricks

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20 Dec, 2017

My warmest wishes to all of you, as I am taking some time off with my family to observe the one-year anniversary of the loss of my beloved husband, Ronald Decker (December 26, 2016).
I hope you cherish the time you have with your family and friends this holiday season, and every day after.  In the meantime please enjoy these very valuable articles for your Family’s Holiday Season.

Happy Blended Family Holidays!
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Understanding The Emotional Impact of Divorce

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Divorce happens due to a number of reasons, like lack of intimacy, infidelity and abuse. It generally occurs in multiple stages, what relationship experts term “divorce cascade”. A marriage about to end is peppered with rising conflict. Communication between the couple reaches disastrous levels before  the marriage reaches a flaming end.
Most divorces result in couples living a better life afterward. This could result in considerable adjustments. It is quite common for divorced individuals to experience (more...)

How To Help Your Children Adjust To Your Remarriage

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Blending a family is a huge, complex topic and this is only going to scratch the surface … if you are dating again, thinking about getting married again then you’re going to need to help your children adjust to your remarriage.
We know that second marriages are not easy. The U.S. Census Bureau in 2006 found that 60 percent of second marriages end in divorce. It seems that third marriages are even harder, ending in divorce (more...)

5 Dos and Don’ts of Shared Custody

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You may already know the basics of custody etiquette—not dropping your child off late and no bad-mouthing your ex in front of your child. While these are important, there are many other unspoken guidelines you should know about for a smooth and happy shared custody experience.
Whether you’re reaching an amicable agreement with your ex, or going to court with lawyers, here are five other dos and don’ts:

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Parents: Preserving Family Photos Essential For Children of Divorce

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By Rosalind Sedacca, CDC 
I read a poignant comment on a blog recently, written by a married mother of three. She was a child of divorce whose father moved out of the home when she was four. She talks about having very few pictures of herself as a child and only one of her mother and father together. Her grandfather found and gave her the photo just a few years ago. She framed it and has proudly displayed (more...)

Child Centered Parenting in a Blended Family – Hers, Mine and the Exes

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My soon-to-be second wife and I are raising four children. With our wedding date quickly approaching, I’ve been thinking a lot about what it means to have a successful blended family, and how we deal with our exes for the good of our children.
Out of the Mouths of Babes
It’s 3:00 AM and I can’t sleep. I keep hearing the voices of our kids, over and over in my (more...)

How to Talk to Kids About Divorce

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Video: [MUSIC] You probably know this. But divorce sucks. There's just no way of getting around it. And you will have to tell your child. But I can promise you that after you tell your child you're gonna feel so much better. Because that's the worst part of the divorce. There are a couple of caveats I think you need to know in talking to your kids about divorce, when you break the news to them. Number one (more...)