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How To Tell Your Children About the Divorce: A Proven Approach That’s Sensitive and Sane!

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The best approach to breaking the divorce news to your children!By Rosalind Sedacca, DCD Few children outgrow the warm comfort of a bedtime tale. And like most kids, my son always enjoyed his baby pictures – watching himself grow and change. Divorce is certainly no fairytale, but I thought, ‘Maybe combing a story with our own family photos will help him grasp the biggest, most dramatic change of his life.’When I decided to end (more...)

Children and Divorce: 5 Keys To Help Your Kids Thrive

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Make smart parenting decisions after divorce.By Rosalind Sedacca, CDCNo one plans to get divorced. But more than one million children in the U.S. will experience its affects this year alone. Divorce has become relatively mainstream in our culture, but that doesn’t make it easier for the parents or children involved. Consequently, innocent kids are coping with the consequences every day.The good news is that divorce need not wound and scar your children if you (more...)

How Children of Divorce Are Affected By Parental Anger & Conflict

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Parents Fighting Around Kids After DivorceWhether you’re contemplating divorce, in the process, or transitioning after your own divorce, there’s one thing that’s crucial for all parents to keep in mind …Fighting around the children does more damage to them than divorce itself. That’s why as parents we need to be diligent in monitoring our children — as well as our own behavior — to safeguard our kids from emotional (more...)

Breaking the Divorce News To My Son Was Both Traumatic & Transformative!

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The best approach to breaking the divorce news to your children!By Rosalind Sedacca, CDCI’ve faced many difficult moments in my life. But preparing to tell my son that I will be divorcing his father was absolutely one of the worst.He was innocent — a sweet eleven year-old boy who loved both his parents dearly. He didn’t deserve this.I struggled with anxiety for weeks. When should we tell him? What should we say?(more...)

Divorce Books Helpful For Children of Divorce

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By Rosalind Sedacca, CDCWe all know that divorce is one of the most traumatic events that can happen in a child’s life. Many people have written books on the subject to guide parents through the maze of challenges that are inevitable at this time. However, it is much more difficult communicating with children directly about divorce.There are a few books on the market written especially for children. None of them are one size fits all. So (more...)

Divorced Parents: Effective Communication Is Key to Co-Parenting Success

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Children affected by DivorceBy Rosalind Sedacca, CDCWhile divorce may end a marriage, when you’re a parent it doesn’t end the need for working together on behalf of your children. How you communicate with one another about parenting issues will affect your children today and for years to come. Here are some tips on keeping communication with your Ex as effective as possible.Communicate in writing Use online co-parenting tools such as MoietyApp.com to (more...)

Why You Must Let Go of Grudges After Your Divorce!

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By Rosalind Sedacca, CLC  “The weak can never forgive. Forgiveness is the attribute of the strong.” GandhiAnger-Conflict Programs for Co-Parenting & Other Life ChallengesDivorce can be a major stumbling block to our happiness and personal growth. Holding grudges and resentments have proven to be harmful to your physical health and emotional wellbeing. Forgiveness is a productive way to move forward, detach from the past and let go of lingering hurts so you can experience a healthier, (more...)

Divorced Parents: Keys For Coping With Anxiety And Guilt

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By Rosalind Sedacca, CDCChildren are affected by divorceNot surprisingly, guilt is often an integral part of the equation for parents coping with divorce. No parent wants their child to have to go through the turmoil of a parental divorce or separation. This is especially true for the parent initiating the divorce. Sometimes the internal battle over whether to move ahead with the divorce can go on for years before the final decision is made.Complicating matters is the anxiety (more...)

Is It Parental Conflict – Or Divorce – That Most Damages Children?

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By Rosalind Sedacca, CDCParents Fighting Around Kids After DivorceSo often I am asked: Is it divorce or parental discord that most damages children? More and more evidence points at the attitude of the parents being most influential on the outcome for innocent children.Numerous articles by marriage and family therapist Ruth Bettelheim address this topic in ways that are both relevant and, quite surprising for many. That’s because she refutes common misconceptions about divorce and addresses the (more...)

6 Break the Divorce News to the Kids Messages for Divorcing Parents

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By Rosalind Sedacca, CDCThe best approach to breaking the divorce news to your children!One of the most difficult conversations any parent will ever have is telling their children about their pending divorce. I know first-hand because many years ago I went through the experience. I fought and faced the overwhelming emotions. The deep gut-wrenching fear. The continuous anxiety. The incredible guilt. And the oppressive weight of shame.My son, after all, was innocent. A sweet, gentle soul who (more...)