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6 Tips For A Single Mom To Raise A Confident Child

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If you are a single mom, you might have concerns about whether you can raise a happy and confident child. No doubt, single parenting is a tough challenge. As long as you provide your children with a strong passionate base and clear behavior guidelines, usually they’ll be fine.
In America, the trend of single motherhood is growing rapidly. In 2018, there were 11.3 million families that were headed by a single parent, and among them, 81 (more...)

How To Avoid A Mistake When You Decide Where To Live After Divorce

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Figuring out where to live after divorce is often very unsettling and is the issue that causes the most upheaval. While you and your STBX are discussing what happens to the marital home, you feel in a state of limbo, uncertain where life will take you. That makes it hard to make other decisions and yet, at least one of you is going to have to move.
Here you are, in the middle of one of life’s (more...)

You Can Mend Your Broken Heart 💔 ➡️💖

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Recovery is often associated with overcoming addiction.  However, for those dealing with divorce, recovery is their reality as well.  So, if you’re dealing with the emotional turmoil of divorce, rather than focus only on what is being lost, try to anticipate positive things that may be gained.

This month we focus on divorce, not as an end, but as a beginning.  The beginning of a new life, perhaps even a new you.  If (more...)

Celebrating Single Parents Everywhere

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Becoming a single parent, whether by choice or through circumstances beyond your control, can be at times scary and perhaps even overwhelming.  In some cases, many of you co-parent with an Ex, which can obviously present its own set of unique challenges.

“You can raise good children in single parent households, and many of you perhaps here today come from that type of environment.  It is possible and many do it in heroic situations, but it&(more...)

2 Ways To Kick Your Divorce Fears To The Curb

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It was hard to concentrate, or even function.
Hard to fall asleep at night, hard to pay attention at work, and no matter what I did to try and distract myself, the sheer panic and chaos followed me around all the time.
“Ohmigod. I have no idea what do to. Will I ever get through this?”
“I have no idea where I’m going to be in a month, much less a year. How the (more...)

Want A Happy Life After Divorce? You Have To Let Go Of The Past

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If you want a happy life after divorce then you have to let go of the past.
That’s true regardless of the circumstances that led to the end of your marriage and it’s true for all of us. We all learn things about ourselves in this process. We learn about our values, our beliefs, our choices. And, if we do the self-work, we understand where they came from and if they are serving us or (more...)

5 Important Lessons I Learned From My Wedding Mementos

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I have a pretty good idea what Marie Kondo would say about my wedding mementos … she’d say it’s definitely time to declutter that. You see … it’s almost 29 years since my wedding and I’ve been divorced for almost 12 years. That box, the size of a box of photocopying paper, has most recently been sitting in my basement, tucked out of sight, out of mind. It weighed some 15 (more...)

Co-Parenting with an Abusive Ex-Spouse

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Co-Parenting with Former Domestic Violence Abuser

Domestic violence is a painful and often traumatic experience that victims do not want to relive once they finally leave.  When you have children with your abuser however, it may feel like you are forced to continue to endure the trauma of the abusive relationship even after divorce. In many cases parents are ordered to co-parent regardless of abuse or domestic violence between parents. While this is grounded in the well-intentioned desire (more...)

Tired Of getting Hurt? You Need New Boundaries!

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Divorce is one of life’s milestone events that causes many of us to examine our boundaries. You may even be learning about healthy boundaries for the first time.
The changing nature of your relationship with your ex likely means it’s time to reassess your boundaries with them.
Dealing with family members and friends during divorce may also mean setting new expectations about what you will and won’t share. And now that you’(more...)

After Divorce, What Would Marie Kondo Say About Your Wedding Memorabilia?

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After a divorce, it can be challenging to discard anything that reminded you of your marriage. If you wanted the divorce, it may feel healing to blow up or trash your wedding dress once the papers are filed. For others, especially those with children, you may decide to save some wedding memorabilia for their memories or special day. The next decisions you must make are what to save and what to discard.
Have you considered the KonMari method of (more...)