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Estate Planning 101: Five Reasons to Put Your Money Into a Trust

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A Super Fast Explanation of a Trust
Think of a trust as a huge bank vault where you can park all of your money and assets. You can put your house into the vault, as well as your investment portfolio, business interests, your classic cars, even your jewelry. The trust is controlled by a “trustee.” A trustee can be one of your adult children (though this may cause family squabbling), a sibling, a good friend, or a (more...)

Helpful Books For People Contemplating Divorce

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This is a guest post by divorce attorney, Anna Krolikowska, offering 7 books for those contemplating divorce or going through one. I know Anna personally and think she is a smart, compassionate and wonderful attorney. Here is her article:
Helpful Books For People Contemplating Divorce
by Anna Krolikowska
 
I am a family law attorney.  In my practice I work with clients who are contemplating or pursuing divorce, or clients who are in the process of crafting their (more...)

What Should I Bring With Me to the First Family Law Attorney Meeting in Tulsa?

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For many, the idea of your first family law attorney meeting in Tulsa can be overwhelming — and a little intimidating.
If you are going through a divorce or child custody action, you probably know very little of the procedures involved. In contrast, divorces and child custody cases are what your soon-to-be family law attorney works on every day and went to years of schooling to perfect.
However, your family law attorney is there to help you and be (more...)

Grieving A Divorce? No One Should Tell You How To Feel

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Editors note: I read this wonderful article by Lisa and thought it applied so well to those who might be grieving a divorce. I remember people saying things like, “You’re going to be fine,” “You should be glad it happened now while you’re still young and you can get remarried,” or “Stop feeling sorry for yourself. At least you’re not sick and dying.” I realize they were (more...)

How to Divorce-Proof Your Trust

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Trusts were once considered a tool that only the mega-rich used to shovel their huge piles of money into a safe place. These days, trusts are increasingly used by all sorts of people, including older couples who want to provide ongoing support for their children or business owners who appreciate a trust’s ability to protect their assets from lawsuits and other creditors. If you are the beneficiary of a trust or own a trust and are facing (more...)

The Brutal Pain Of Divorce And 7 Reasons You Should Never Give Up On Happiness

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I cannot describe how heartbreaking I feel when I read comments on Divorced Girl Smiling like this one, that unveil the brutal pain of divorce:
 
How do you shake the “never want to wake up” feeling? I’m so miserable. Every single day is pain and I just want to give up.
 
Before I offer my advice for those feeling the brutal pain of divorce and why you should never give up on being (more...)

Can I Ask for a Custody Modification if the Other Parent Puts Our Child in Childcare During Custody Time?

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A very common occurrence these days is for working parents to place their children in childcare during custody time in Oklahoma because they have to be at work during normally scheduled custody.
For example, a father works on Saturdays because he is a cars salesman, and Saturdays are when he earns most of his commission for the month. However, the mother remains at home and is unhappy that the children are at their father’s house being watched (more...)

Understanding The Stepfamily Cycle.

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Blended Families
The Stepfamily Cycle
I have been working with a lovely family who are finding it hard to adjust to the changes that blending two families together brings.
I always remind my clients that bringing together 2 separate families is a process and not an event, and it takes time and flexibility on everyone’s behalf to settle into new family relationships.
It’s about managing your expectations and keeping the lines of communication open.
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Three Ways Millennials Might Change Divorce Forever

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Here at WIFE, we write about divorce a lot. That’s because divorce is often the single most expensive life event a woman may experience. A divorce can change a woman’s financial trajectory dramatically, which often has negative consequences for her quality for life for years to come. With that in mind, we thought it would be worthwhile to look at the millennial generation as it begins hitting its prime marriage (and divorce) years.
How is (more...)

What Happens to Change in Child Support When the Custodial Parent Changes From One Parent to the Other in Oklahoma?

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In order to seek a change in child support in Oklahoma, the moving party must show that a significant change in circumstances necessitates a change in support, for example, when primary custody changes from one parent to the other.
Change in child support takes into consideration parenting time when determining amount of support. We discuss below the child custody determination procedure to give you a better idea as to why having a child support attorney helping you is your (more...)