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The Two Biggest Obstacles In Forgiving A Cheater

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Readers email me frequently, asking for advice on what to do after a spouse cheats. Some of them want to try to work it out, while others are vehemently headed for divorce court. But a lot of spouses are unsure, and their indecision on whether they should stay or leave can go on for months, even years. Although I usually have an opinion on what I think someone should do, I don’t like to give it. Instead, (more...)

We’re Bringing The Beach To You For A Mini Meditation

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Do you like being by the sea? I do and find it very relaxing to watch the waves coming in to the shore and out again. Many years ago, a colleague of mine who had studied self-hypnosis taught me this simple beach mini meditation and I found it so useful that I have been telling it to my clients ever since.
Whether you are feeling revved up because you are getting irritated or overwhelmed because you have too much (more...)

Four Emotional Benefits of She Sheds

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She sheds offer emotional benefits, keep relationships healthy
by Jackie Pilossoph for Chicago Tribune Media Group
When Cindy Holmes-Fine and her husband moved in together five years ago, their blended family consisted of five kids, all still living at home. Although very happy to have such a large and loving family, Holmes-Fine felt like there were times she needed and wanted some space; alone time, a reprieve, an escape.
Her solution: A “she shed.”
 

 
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The Difference Between Being Needy In A Relationship and Having Needs Is Huge

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Ever know someone who was needy in a relationship? Perhaps an ex? Or maybe you? Let’s talk about it.
I was talking with a client who has been in the dating scene since he got divorced several years ago, and has been really working on understanding what he needs in a relationship. He is finding that his needs get clearer once he is in a relationship, because it allows him to really look at what makes for (more...)

5 Reasons Why A Rebound Relationship May Be Just What You Need

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Guest Post by Terry Gaspard
As a newly divorced woman with two school age children, I plunged into a rebound relationship with someone who provided solace, companionship, and emotional and sexual intimacy. Since neither one of us had healed sufficiently from our recent divorces, the relationship ended after six months.
While we weren’t ready for a commitment, my ex-boyfriend helped me overcome my challenging divorce and gave me self-confidence. This relationship helped me to get over my (more...)

5 Steps To A Brighter Future After Divorce!

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By Rosalind Sedacca, CDC
Accepting the reality and finality of divorce can be a tough challenge. We need to be able to let go of the life we knew and prepare to face an unknown future. That can be intimidating. Here are 5 key steps to accepting your new reality with grace, peace and positive expectations for a happier life ahead, especially if you’re also a parent!
1) Focus on yourself — not on your former spouse
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Tinder co-founder Whitney Wolfe: 40 y/o men are ready to commit; Dating advice for recently divorced

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In this episode, I interview Tinder co-founder and Bumble CEO Whitney Wolfe whose insights on dating have me floored. For example, she confirms my hunch that men age 40 are ripe for the picking — they’re accomplished and ready for a cozy relationship. Listen up, ladies! Also, I help a follower Lisa, in Phoenix, navigate dating after…
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Should I Break Up With My Boyfriend?

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This reader is wondering, “Should I break up with my boyfriend?” Here is her email, along with my advice.
Dear Anita,
I’m in a 5-month relationship with my boyfriend. Things were great in the beginning but it’s been rocky the last couple of months. We’ve been arguing more and I don’t hear from him as often as I used to. I thought he was “The One” but (more...)

3 Words For Those Who Have A Fear Of Dating After Divorce

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             I feel like I’ve gotten a lot of emails lately from readers who express a fear of dating after divorce. What’s funny is, I was recently interviewed for the Megyn Kelly TODAY show, and one of my quotes was, “Dating after divorce is terrifying for anyone. I really believe that. It was for me.” So, maybe that’s why I&(more...)

6 Tips To Staying Happy In Your Relationship

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Most of us have heard of the concept of looking at our relationship with our partner as a garden that we plant and tend. The concept being that as with a garden, we plant the seeds of our relationship with another, and watch as it blooms into something that brings beauty and joy into our lives. We need to tend to the relationship as we would a garden; nurturing it, “watering” it, paying attention to weeds, (problems) (more...)