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What Should I Bring With Me to the First Family Law Attorney Meeting in Tulsa?

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For many, the idea of your first family law attorney meeting in Tulsa can be overwhelming — and a little intimidating.
If you are going through a divorce or child custody action, you probably know very little of the procedures involved. In contrast, divorces and child custody cases are what your soon-to-be family law attorney works on every day and went to years of schooling to perfect.
However, your family law attorney is there to help you and be (more...)

3 Really Bad Reasons For Staying In An Unhealthy Marriage

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 Here’s a synopsis of a reader considering either getting divorced or staying in an unhealthy marriage:
 
She 27 years old, and she and her husband have been together for about a decade. He’s a student and she has been working and supporting him financially almost the entire time. She said one problem with the marriage is that the only thing they do together is watch TV.
 
I’m starting to feel (more...)

6 Tips To Getting A Mortgage After Divorce

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When I was going through my divorce several years ago, amongst the countless worries that kept me up at night was the fact that I wanted to stay in my home. But, even if I was fortunate enough to get the house in the divorce settlement, how would I go about getting a mortgage after divorce? I knew little about the process, AND I was not employed at the time. It was beyond stressful.
 
Jeremy Woods is a (more...)

The Brutal Pain Of Divorce And 7 Reasons You Should Never Give Up On Happiness

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I cannot describe how heartbreaking I feel when I read comments on Divorced Girl Smiling like this one, that unveil the brutal pain of divorce:
 
How do you shake the “never want to wake up” feeling? I’m so miserable. Every single day is pain and I just want to give up.
 
Before I offer my advice for those feeling the brutal pain of divorce and why you should never give up on being (more...)

Does Guy Having An Emotional Affair With His Boss Deserve Another Chance?

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Any kind of cheating is awful. Feeling betrayed is painful, heart wrenching and terribly disappointing. But I personally think it might be harder for a couple to come back from having an emotional affair. Here is one reader’s story:
My husband and I have been together for 13 years and married for a little over a year. months.
Two months ago, he began constantly texting his (female) supervisor. They sent hundreds upon hundreds of texts a week. (more...)

Are You In An Abusive Relationship?

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Last night was the Super Bowl, so today seemed like an opportune time to publish this post, written by an anonymous author who was in an abusive relationship.
I know, I know… it’s a myth that Super Bowl Sunday spikes the highest incidence of domestic violence. But still, I have to believe that drinking and partying and football can lead to domestic violence and abuse in a relationship. Even more important, EVERY day, domestic violence is (more...)

Why It’s Wrong To Think You’re Not A Family After Divorce

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A common reason for not wanting to end a marriage is not to break up the family but that’s flawed logic. It’s wrong to think you’re not a family after divorce.
Ask people who are post-divorce and they’ll tell you that they are still a family, they’re just a little different now.
This tells us two things: being in a family is important to many people and the concept (more...)

When’s The Right Time to Take Your Wedding Rings Off?

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The first thing to understand about removing your wedding rings during a divorce or separation is that there is no right time.
What feels right is going to feel wrong to someone else. As you’ll learn through the divorce process, you have to decide what’s right for you. That said, everyone going through this emotional time will handle the wedding rings question differently.
Is there a “right” time to remove your wedding rings (more...)

Dating After Divorce: Advice, Tips, and Why This Is An Exciting Time!

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            Dating after divorce is something many people dread (I definitely dreaded it 11 years ago.) In fact, a lot of couples decide to stay together (not get divorced) because neither wants to start dating again. I mean, isn’t that why you got married in the first place? Because you enjoyed monogamy and didn’t want to go on awkward, uncomfortable dates anymore? So, why would (more...)

In Life After Divorce, Don’t Play Small

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Does life after divorce and a lack of confidence have you playing small? 
by Shannon McGorry
 
“There is no passion to be found playing small – in settling for a life that is less than the one you are capable of living.” – Nelson Mandela
That is one of my favorite quotes and I share it because it helps light the spark in me, and my hope is that it does the same for you.
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