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What’s Your Relationship With Money?

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Divorce can feel like quite a shock to the system. Everything you thought you knew has changed. It may cause many to reevaluate their relationships with friends, family and themselves. You may also reevaluate your relationship with money.
Because of the financial strain of divorce, and the division of assets, it may become apparent that you have strong emotions around money. In fact, finances could be the reason for the strain in your marriage.
What is your relationship with (more...)

There Is No Easy Or Quick Way To Heal From Divorce

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We all need to heal from divorce. That applies just as much to the person who initiates the divorce as the person whose spouse makes the decision.
The healing process stirs up a lot of feelings and hurts from our childhood and family of origin, our societal and cultural norms and expectations and, of course from the marriage itself and previous committed relationships.
It’s no wonder many people avoid the work of healing! Yet, if you skip (more...)

Is He Your Transitional Man Or Is He The One?

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What is a transitional relationship and how can they help you find love? A transitional man (or woman) is the first significant relationship that usually comes after a long term relationship or marriage. They are someone who helps you find your footing, after a difficult breakup.
I began thinking about my transitional man when I had a conversation with a group of women about divorce, relationships and love. We began talking about the men we had dated and realized (more...)

Emotional Hell When A Spouse Has An Emotional Affair?

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When someone finds out their spouse is cheating or cheated, it’s awful. I’ve personally been there—not in my marriage but in another relationship. It’s like you just got punched in the stomach, and you keep feeling like you are repeatedly getting punched in the stomach for days, even weeks. It’s shocking (even for those who suspected it), it’s infuriating, it makes you feel like you will never (more...)

What Happens to My Estate Plan When I Divorce in Oklahoma?

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Many individuals neglect an important issue both during and after a divorce. If you and your spouse created an estate plan during your marriage, chances are you may not have the same wishes in your estate plan that you have now. 
Neglecting to consider your estate plan during your divorce and failing to update your estate plan after a divorce can have serious consequences for you and your family. We highly recommend consulting with a divorce attorney and (more...)

What You Need (And Don’t Need) For Happiness After Divorce

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Happiness after divorce seems almost unimaginable while you’re going through one. It’s like you just can’t picture it. “What’s my life going to be like when the divorce is final and when all of this is settled? Happy isn’t a word most people choose for the answer to this question because all the unknowns they are facing seem daunting and challenging.
But in reality, I think most people (more...)

Single Mom Says “I Am Not The Mother I Wanted To Be”

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I have been a single mom for 11 years. That doesn’t mean my ex doesn’t see my children. In fact, he’s played a big role in their lives. So, I’m not claiming to be this struggling, single mom who’s all alone in the world. But that said, being a single mom has always been challenging for me. Not saying I’ve had a really hard life and that (more...)

The Two Biggest Obstacles In Forgiving A Cheater

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Readers email me frequently, asking for advice on what to do after a spouse cheats. Some of them want to try to work it out, while others are vehemently headed for divorce court. But a lot of spouses are unsure, and their indecision on whether they should stay or leave can go on for months, even years. Although I usually have an opinion on what I think someone should do, I don’t like to give it. Instead, (more...)

We’re Bringing The Beach To You For A Mini Meditation

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Do you like being by the sea? I do and find it very relaxing to watch the waves coming in to the shore and out again. Many years ago, a colleague of mine who had studied self-hypnosis taught me this simple beach mini meditation and I found it so useful that I have been telling it to my clients ever since.
Whether you are feeling revved up because you are getting irritated or overwhelmed because you have too much (more...)

Four Emotional Benefits of She Sheds

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She sheds offer emotional benefits, keep relationships healthy
by Jackie Pilossoph for Chicago Tribune Media Group
When Cindy Holmes-Fine and her husband moved in together five years ago, their blended family consisted of five kids, all still living at home. Although very happy to have such a large and loving family, Holmes-Fine felt like there were times she needed and wanted some space; alone time, a reprieve, an escape.
Her solution: A “she shed.”
 

 
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