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How to Quickly Recognize Narcissistic Personality Disorder in Your Partner

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Narcissist-Divorce

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Narcissistic personality disorder is a condition in which the person drowns in self-love, seeing everyone else and anything else as unimportant. A narcissist lacks empathy towards others. He/she focuses on feelings of self-importance, self-admiration, and grandiosity, often crushing all chances of emotional connections, friendships, and relationships. Very few people can endure a marriage with a narcissistic person. These are marriages often shrouded with either selfishness, self-hate, shame, verbal and/or even physical abuse.

How I Adjusted to the ‘New Normal’ of Divorce

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(despite the fact that the words "new normal" might make your skin crawl)
During the onset of my divorce I remember when my therapist said to me:

“You will need to adjust to this, because this is your new normal." I thought I was going to be physically ill. I despised that sentence; every word of it but particularly “NEW NORMAL”…

Are You In A Bad Marriage During The Holidays?

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You know it to your very core. You’re done. You’ve lived in an unhappy marriage for far too long. The thought of your bad marriage during the holidays AGAIN is almost more than you can bear.
 
Watching your husband overindulge at holiday parties is unbearable. Listening to that fake laugh your wife puts on when she is trying to be social makes you cringe. You hate the way your spouse looks, acts, talks, and (more...)

6 Financial Moves to Make Now for a Amicable Divorce

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Financial management in marriage separation is not for the faint-hearted. In fact, going into a divorce can feel similar to heading into war: you must expect the unexpected. You put up your defenses and feel like you are headed for a huge battle with your spouse. Not to mention, you feel like you’re going to get hurt or scarred in some way. But it doesn't have to be that way.


Why Some People Recover From Divorce And Others Stay Stuck

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We all know that divorce, especially high conflict divorce, can be devastating. Some men and women are so traumatized, that it takes them years to recover from divorce. Really high conflict divorces have even been known to cause post traumatic stress disorder (PTSD).
 
Yet, while some men and women struggle to survive, others thrive. Instead of experiencing post traumatic stress, some people actually seem to experience post traumatic growth! What allows some people to find a bright (more...)

To Caucus or Not To Caucus

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{3:00 minutes to read} In mediation, a caucus is a private meeting between one of the parties and the mediator. This is routinely done in commercial mediations, with the mediator shuttling back and forth between the two, or more, litigants who usually have lawyers with them in the sessions. However, in divorce mediation it is not [...]

Why You Should Get Divorce Advice to Save Your Marriage

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There are many things that can sour a marriage. If you and your spouse have experienced infidelity, your communication has become negative, or you are no longer supportive of one another, it can make staying in the relationship feel like a struggle. If your partner has come to you and asked for a divorce, you may be wondering if there is anything you can do to save your marriage. The answer is yes!

How Can My Spouse and I Avoid Going to Court When Filing for Divorce in Tulsa?

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Many couples do not realize that appearing in court and attending hearings is not necessary to obtain a divorce in Oklahoma. When a couple is amicable or has agreed to be cooperative in the divorce process, court can be avoided altogether. 
Couples that do choose to work together have the opportunity of taking part in two different processes Oklahoma offers. The first process is called the waiver divorce.  Couples are rewarded with a short divorce timeframe as (more...)

Shared Parenting & Child Custody – Put Down the Boxing Gloves

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By Rosalind Sedacca, CDC
When divorced parents let the negative emotions they’re feeling toward their former spouses – hatred, hurt, disappointment, guilt, shame, anxiety, frustration, mistrust and more – influence their decisions about child-custody issues, they are sabotaging their children. It is selfish, insensitive and extremely unproductive to let your personal vendetta determine the relationship your children have with their other parent – and extended family on both sides.
Throughout the U.S. and the world divorce (more...)

50/50 Custody Versus Traditional Every Other Weekend Parenting Time

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When I was going through my divorce 11 years ago, I had the feeling that most divorced couples were still doing the traditional custody arrangement, where Mom has the kids during the week, and Dad gets them one night a week and every other weekend. Especially in the case where Mom was a stay-at-home mom. I have a feeling that 50/50 custody splits started to become more common a few years after I got divorced.
 
These days&(more...)