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Want A Happy Life After Divorce? You Have To Let Go Of The Past

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If you want a happy life after divorce then you have to let go of the past.
That’s true regardless of the circumstances that led to the end of your marriage and it’s true for all of us. We all learn things about ourselves in this process. We learn about our values, our beliefs, our choices. And, if we do the self-work, we understand where they came from and if they are serving us or (more...)

5 Important Lessons I Learned From My Wedding Mementos

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I have a pretty good idea what Marie Kondo would say about my wedding mementos … she’d say it’s definitely time to declutter that. You see … it’s almost 29 years since my wedding and I’ve been divorced for almost 12 years. That box, the size of a box of photocopying paper, has most recently been sitting in my basement, tucked out of sight, out of mind. It weighed some 15 (more...)

Can You Afford to Keep Your House After a Divorce?

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{3:30 minutes to read}  For most of my clients, the house is their biggest asset. It is often also their biggest liability. But beyond that, however, is the emotional importance. Deciding what to do with their house is a component of the divorce process that can often cloud a couple’s judgement. Whether it’s because this [...]

Co-Parenting with an Abusive Ex-Spouse

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Co-Parenting with Former Domestic Violence Abuser

Domestic violence is a painful and often traumatic experience that victims do not want to relive once they finally leave.  When you have children with your abuser however, it may feel like you are forced to continue to endure the trauma of the abusive relationship even after divorce. In many cases parents are ordered to co-parent regardless of abuse or domestic violence between parents. While this is grounded in the well-intentioned desire (more...)

After Divorce, What Would Marie Kondo Say About Your Wedding Memorabilia?

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After a divorce, it can be challenging to discard anything that reminded you of your marriage. If you wanted the divorce, it may feel healing to blow up or trash your wedding dress once the papers are filed. For others, especially those with children, you may decide to save some wedding memorabilia for their memories or special day. The next decisions you must make are what to save and what to discard.
Have you considered the KonMari method of (more...)

Child Custody Statutes

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Child custody statutes. Click one to see an in depth description.

§ 50-11.1. Children born of voidable marriage legitimate.

§ 50-11.2. Judgment provisions pertaining to care, custody, tuition and maintenance of minor children.

§ 50‑13.1. Action or proceeding for custody of minor child.

§ 50-13.2. Who entitled to custody; terms of custody; visitation rights of grandparents; taking child out of State

§ 50-13.2A. Action for visitation of an adopted grandchild

§ 50-13.(more...)

Should I sue for Alienation of Affection?

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If your partner has been unfaithful in your marriage, there are often more pains than just the initial shock of the infidelity. Many couples struggle to return to the same level of love, trust, and security found in the beginning of their marriage after a spouse’s affair. Additionally, if you are a victim of a spouse’s infidelity, you may also harbor resentment towards the person your spouse has been unfaithful with. This person is (more...)

Estate Planning 101: Five Reasons to Put Your Money Into a Trust

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A Super Fast Explanation of a Trust
Think of a trust as a huge bank vault where you can park all of your money and assets. You can put your house into the vault, as well as your investment portfolio, business interests, your classic cars, even your jewelry. The trust is controlled by a “trustee.” A trustee can be one of your adult children (though this may cause family squabbling), a sibling, a good friend, or a (more...)

Helpful Books For People Contemplating Divorce

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This is a guest post by divorce attorney, Anna Krolikowska, offering 7 books for those contemplating divorce or going through one. I know Anna personally and think she is a smart, compassionate and wonderful attorney. Here is her article:
Helpful Books For People Contemplating Divorce
by Anna Krolikowska
 
I am a family law attorney.  In my practice I work with clients who are contemplating or pursuing divorce, or clients who are in the process of crafting their (more...)

What Should I Bring With Me to the First Family Law Attorney Meeting in Tulsa?

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For many, the idea of your first family law attorney meeting in Tulsa can be overwhelming — and a little intimidating.
If you are going through a divorce or child custody action, you probably know very little of the procedures involved. In contrast, divorces and child custody cases are what your soon-to-be family law attorney works on every day and went to years of schooling to perfect.
However, your family law attorney is there to help you and be (more...)