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Alimony – Not the Same as “All Your Money”

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The issue of spousal support has ended more than one well-meaning mediation and polarized its fair share of litigated divorces.  Everything is going great until someone says the word “alimony” and all of sudden, defenses go up, wallets go hiding and paychecks get “lost.”

“You never realize how short a month is until you pay alimony.”   ~ John BarrymoreWhat is alimony (or spousal support)?   How long (more...)

10 Things To Consider When Reducing Child Support

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Guest post by Carlos Martinez, Legal Solutions of New Mexico
Child support orders are based on your circumstances at the time the order is issued. As we all know, circumstances can change, and many people might want – or need – to reduce the amount of child support they are paying. While this is possible in some situations, you need to get the court’s permission. You should not simply start paying less without a modified order. The (more...)

How Do You Best Help Your Kids Understand Divorce?

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If divorce is confusing for adults, imagine how it is for your kids. It seems like everything in their world is changing and they have no control over any of it. It’s up to you to help your kids understand divorce.
We often hear that children are resilient and adaptable.
I also hear parents say that the kids know that the marriage is ending but they don’t know much about why. The parents think they&(more...)

Ready To Feel Better? Then Don’t Be Afraid To Tick People Off!

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This is the #1 thing you must do to stick up for yourself. 
Here’s the uncomfortable truth, friends.
In your journey to get confident and feel better about yourself, you cannot be afraid to step on toes. In other words…
Don’t be afraid to tick people off. 
Strong people will end up ticking people off. And that’s okay.
Now, to be clear, I’m not talking about being (more...)

It’s Time To Celebrate The Comforts Of Fall

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In some areas of the country, the temperatures have yet to drop below 90 degrees but even in the warmest of places, summer is winding down. When the first cool breeze arrives, we all know that it’s time to celebrate the comforts of fall.
Your favorite coffee shops are bringing back everything pumpkin-spiced. There are Halloween decorations in stores and the leaves are changing color ever so subtly.  Let’s consider our favorite things about (more...)

I am Not a Neutral Mediator

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{3 minutes to read}   In my previous post, I addressed a concern raised by a client about my neutrality. In this post, I detail why, as a divorce mediator, I do not take sides. However, that does not mean I am neutral. I do not sit quietly on the sidelines watching the action. Instead, I [...]

What Happens to the House in Divorce [Ultimate Guide]

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You’re getting a divorce andit’s time to figure out major questions like, What happens to the house in a divorce? Who gets the house in a divorce? Should I keep the house? Do I have to refinance after divorce? What is a divorce house buyout and how does it work?
Take a breath and let’s explore these questions in more depth. We interviewed 3 experts who handle divorce: a realtor, mortgage broker, (more...)

What to do When Divorcing Your Spouse AND the House

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If you’re getting divorced, then you should pay extra special attention to the real estate matters of your divorce.  There are many complexities when it comes to divorce and real estate and the potential for problems can be many.  Having professionals who understand these complexities and can work as a team to make things flow easier for you in the process of your divorce, can be priceless.

“Home should be an anchor, a port (more...)

Prepping For Back To School As A Single Parent

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The back to school season is one that is both hectic and exciting for parents and kids alike. Getting back into the routine of the school year is a difficult feat, especially as a single mom or dad. As you start shopping for supplies, planning out schedules, and balancing extracurriculars, it’s important to prepare for all that lies ahead. Consider the tips below as your guide to prepping for back-to-school as a single parent.
Utilize Tutoring Programs
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How To Meet Your Next Romantic Partner When Dating After Divorce

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Are you new to dating after divorce? If you were asked how you met your previous romantic partners, you might say that friends introduced you or you were set up on a blind date. Recent data has revealed that online dating is now the most common way to meet new partners.
In a survey of over 3,500 heterosexual couples, the data revealed:
2% of couples met online in 1995.
5% met online in 2000.
20% met online by (more...)