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‘Engagement’ Category

We’re Bringing The Beach To You For A Mini Meditation

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Do you like being by the sea? I do and find it very relaxing to watch the waves coming in to the shore and out again. Many years ago, a colleague of mine who had studied self-hypnosis taught me this simple beach mini meditation and I found it so useful that I have been telling it to my clients ever since.
Whether you are feeling revved up because you are getting irritated or overwhelmed because you have too much (more...)

What Halloween Candy Reveals About Your Divorce

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Tis the season – no, not Christmas yet – of Halloween candy. Whether you buy it at the store and eat it all before the trick-or-treating or your children bring loads of it home on October 31, there will be candy and it will be tempting.
You may have memories of your own trick-or-treating fun as you watch your children choose which candy is their favorite, which gets thrown or traded away, and which ones they absolutely must share (more...)

Why “He Just Doesn’t Make Me Happy” Is An Unhealthy Thought

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Have you ever heard this saying, “Happy wife, happy life?” Or, “It’s my job to make my husband happy?” Or, “He just doesn’t make me happy?” I so often hear people talking about being responsible for someone else’s happiness or holding someone responsible for their satisfaction in life. Think about the pressure of that statement, but also the lack of personal responsibility.

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The Difference Between Being Needy In A Relationship and Having Needs Is Huge

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Ever know someone who was needy in a relationship? Perhaps an ex? Or maybe you? Let’s talk about it.
I was talking with a client who has been in the dating scene since he got divorced several years ago, and has been really working on understanding what he needs in a relationship. He is finding that his needs get clearer once he is in a relationship, because it allows him to really look at what makes for (more...)

Advice For: “We’re Getting Divorced Because My Husband No Longer Wants Children”

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When two people decide they want to get married, I think most discuss whether or not they are on the same page for many, many major life decisions. This includes whether or not to have kids and maybe even how many. But what happens when you get married, and your spouse decides later that he or she changed their mind? Your wife or husband no longer wants children. How devastating would this be??
 
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Read This If you Are Having Trouble Getting Over The Ex

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For some reason, right now I know a few different people who are recently broken up and having trouble getting over the ex. I have certainly been there, and so has every  person who has ever gone through a divorce, or been through a breakup.
 
When a spouse moves out or when you finally end things with someone, at first, many people feel relieved because they are now getting the space they need to figure things out, (more...)

Melissa Forman Gives Tips For Blended Families

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Melissa Forman is a well-loved local radio and TV personality in Chicago. I’ve listened to her for decades, and I was even a guest on her TV show a few years ago, but I never knew much about her family until I ran into her at a high school tennis tournament where both of our daughters were playing. We started talking, and the conversation led to me writing my Love Essentially column about Melissa’s love (more...)

Should I Break Up With My Boyfriend?

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This reader is wondering, “Should I break up with my boyfriend?” Here is her email, along with my advice.
Dear Anita,
I’m in a 5-month relationship with my boyfriend. Things were great in the beginning but it’s been rocky the last couple of months. We’ve been arguing more and I don’t hear from him as often as I used to. I thought he was “The One” but (more...)

A Star Is Born: The Movie, The Actors, and Alcoholism

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If you haven’t seen ‘A Star Is Born,’ (the new one with Lady Gaga and Bradley Cooper) I would highly recommend it! Best movie I’ve seen in a long time. But there is a very very sad theme to it: alcoholism, so be prepared. I have heard that alcoholism is one of the top reasons people get divorced and I believe it, because when someone is an alcoholic, their whole personality changes, and (more...)

Why Some People Recover From Divorce And Others Stay Stuck

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We all know that divorce, especially high conflict divorce, can be devastating. Some men and women are so traumatized, that it takes them years to recover from divorce. Really high conflict divorces have even been known to cause post traumatic stress disorder (PTSD).
 
Yet, while some men and women struggle to survive, others thrive. Instead of experiencing post traumatic stress, some people actually seem to experience post traumatic growth! What allows some people to find a bright (more...)