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Melissa Forman Gives Tips For Blended Families

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Melissa Forman is a well-loved local radio and TV personality in Chicago. I’ve listened to her for decades, and I was even a guest on her TV show a few years ago, but I never knew much about her family until I ran into her at a high school tennis tournament where both of our daughters were playing. We started talking, and the conversation led to me writing my Love Essentially column about Melissa’s love (more...)

Should I Break Up With My Boyfriend?

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This reader is wondering, “Should I break up with my boyfriend?” Here is her email, along with my advice.
Dear Anita,
I’m in a 5-month relationship with my boyfriend. Things were great in the beginning but it’s been rocky the last couple of months. We’ve been arguing more and I don’t hear from him as often as I used to. I thought he was “The One” but (more...)

A Star Is Born: The Movie, The Actors, and Alcoholism

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If you haven’t seen ‘A Star Is Born,’ (the new one with Lady Gaga and Bradley Cooper) I would highly recommend it! Best movie I’ve seen in a long time. But there is a very very sad theme to it: alcoholism, so be prepared. I have heard that alcoholism is one of the top reasons people get divorced and I believe it, because when someone is an alcoholic, their whole personality changes, and (more...)

Why Some People Recover From Divorce And Others Stay Stuck

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We all know that divorce, especially high conflict divorce, can be devastating. Some men and women are so traumatized, that it takes them years to recover from divorce. Really high conflict divorces have even been known to cause post traumatic stress disorder (PTSD).
 
Yet, while some men and women struggle to survive, others thrive. Instead of experiencing post traumatic stress, some people actually seem to experience post traumatic growth! What allows some people to find a bright (more...)

3 Words For Those Who Have A Fear Of Dating After Divorce

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             I feel like I’ve gotten a lot of emails lately from readers who express a fear of dating after divorce. What’s funny is, I was recently interviewed for the Megyn Kelly TODAY show, and one of my quotes was, “Dating after divorce is terrifying for anyone. I really believe that. It was for me.” So, maybe that’s why I&(more...)

6 Tips To Staying Happy In Your Relationship

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Most of us have heard of the concept of looking at our relationship with our partner as a garden that we plant and tend. The concept being that as with a garden, we plant the seeds of our relationship with another, and watch as it blooms into something that brings beauty and joy into our lives. We need to tend to the relationship as we would a garden; nurturing it, “watering” it, paying attention to weeds, (problems) (more...)

What’s the Emotional Value of Your Wedding Diamond?

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Photo by Wesley Tingey on UnsplashWhen purchasing a wedding diamond, jewelers use a particular method for determining the value of the stone. Cut, color, carat and clarity are known as the 4C’s and are useful in examining a diamond’s characteristics and worth.
If you’re in possession of a diamond engagement ring, you may view the stone differently than its physical properties alone. That piece of jewelry comes with a lot of memories. If (more...)

Is Getting Together With An Ex A Good Idea or A Recipe For Tears?

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In this week’s Love Essentially, I offer the potential advantages and disadvantages of getting together with an ex. Is it a good idea to meet up? Maybe you need closure or just miss him (or her.) Or, will it re-break your heart? Here’s my take on it.
Should This Woman Go Out For A Beer With Her Ex-Boyfriend?
by Jackie Pilossoph for Chicago Tribune Media Group
There’s nothing easy about a breakup. In (more...)

Divorced Girl Smiling Featured on Megyn Kelly TODAY!

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I recently had an opportunity to tell my story on Megyn Kelly TODAY! What a thrill that was! Although a little scary to put myself out there and be vulnerable in front of America, (there’s a big difference between writing it on a computer and verbalizing it on national TV!) but it felt good because I was reaching (and hopefully helping) countless people who have faced a similar situation.
Check out the segment below where I talk (more...)

Five Steps To Help Find Peace And Happiness While Going Through A Divorce

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When Jennifer Giamo’s husband unexpectedly walked out on her three years ago, she said her world was turned upside down.
“I had no idea he was going to leave. It was devastating and shocking,” Giamo said.
Unable to cope with her impending divorce, Giamo said she started engaging in unhealthy behaviors.
“I wasn’t eating, I wasn’t getting out of bed, I wasn’t leaving the house, I couldn’(more...)