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How Can My Spouse and I Avoid Going to Court When Filing for Divorce in Tulsa?

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Many couples do not realize that appearing in court and attending hearings is not necessary to obtain a divorce in Oklahoma. When a couple is amicable or has agreed to be cooperative in the divorce process, court can be avoided altogether. 
Couples that do choose to work together have the opportunity of taking part in two different processes Oklahoma offers. The first process is called the waiver divorce.  Couples are rewarded with a short divorce timeframe as (more...)

Dating Advice: 7 Questions To Ask On The First 3 Dates

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Here’s some dating advice to help you determine if you’re truly ready to go after your goal of having a long-term, successful relationship:
Picture this: You’re on the 3rd date with someone you really like – and who seems to like you. Can you imagine yourself saying something along these lines?
I think it’s pretty clear we like one another – and I think you’re a terrific guy/girl. (more...)

The Nitty Gritty of Equitable Distribution in Oklahoma Divorce

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Oklahoma is one of forty states that is an equitable distribution state, which means that asset distribution after a divorce is accomplished fairly. Most people believe that assets and debts are divided 50-50 in a divorce, however in equitable distribution states, assets are divided based on the concept of fairness. 
The division process is quite complicated and requires representation. You should hire a skilled Tulsa divorce attorney in order to accurately and properly receive items that are rightfully (more...)

Is Alimony I am Already Paying for a Previous Marriage Considered in Determining Alimony in my Current Tulsa Divorce?

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In Oklahoma, alimony (also known as spousal support) is calculated and assigned based on many different factors. Judges have wide discretion when assigning alimony. Judges use their discretion to weigh various factors in deciding what is fair and equitable.

However, before discussing how alimony is calculated and if alimony from a prior marriage is considered in the calculation, it is important to understand the purpose behind alimony.
What is Alimony
The word “alimony” itself came from (more...)

On My Birthday I Will Be Present And Open Presents

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Today is my birthday. I’m 53 and I want to share some thoughts on how to be present and what that means to me.
 
A few months ago, I was having an argument with someone and he said, “You know what your problem is? You’ve never had anything bad happen to you. That’s why you write about all this stupid divorce drama.”
 
OK… First of all, my dad (more...)

Dating Advice: Mixed Signals Means She’s Mixed Up

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Here is an email from a reader (in his late-twenties and recently divorced) seeking dating advice. He is seeing a woman who is 7 years older than he is. The two have known each other for awhile, and she reached out to him when she heard he was divorced.
 
After she had reached out to me, I asked if we could get together over a drink/dinner to simply catch up. We ended up meeting for dinner the (more...)

When You and Your Ex Should Get A Cell Phone for Your Teen

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Years of parenting has led to one inevitable event: the day your teenager asks for a cell phone. While this may not be a surprise, you and your ex must decide together whether getting your teen a phone protects their best interests. If one of you buys a phone without the other’s consent, it may create serious discord between you and your former partner.
There are a number of steps that you should take to decide with (more...)

Public vs. Private School: What To Do If You And Your Ex Can’t Agree

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Couples in the process of divorcing often say that the list of disagreements to resolve seems like it never ends. Some couples wage war on each other over every little thing… but you’d assume that one thing they should agree on is what’s best for their kids, right?
Wrong.
Custody battles are among the most frightening and traumatic aspects of divorce proceedings, for adults and kids alike. But when it comes to hashing out (more...)

Getting Divorced During Pregnancy: What To Do

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There is never a good time to come to the realization that your marriage is ending, but discovering that you are on the brink of divorce when a baby is on the way is extra difficult. Pregnancy, as exciting and joyous as it is, brings with it huge amounts of stress for everyone involved, and the added demands of divorce are a lot to shoulder even when the rest of life is running smoothly.
Can You Even Get Divorced (more...)

Who Will Support You?

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Child Support.  Alimony.  Dollar Signs.  Years of Payments.  Custody Battles.  Is this what divorce sounds like to you?
The fact is, divorce can be expensive.  Who will pay support, how much and for how long are simply part of the process, especially when children are involved.  We assume every judge does his or her best to make the most fair, just decision, when it is left to them.  However, only you (more...)