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How to Make Extra Money After Divorce

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With the holidays in full swing, it can be tempting to overindulge, especially if you’re going through a divorce. You may want to spoil yourself or your children so that the sting of life changes don’t sting quite as bad.
The National Retail Federation is already predicting the average American will spend over $1000 on holiday shopping this year. It all feels good at the time but when the credit card bill arrives those feelings (more...)

Stressed About the Holidays? Here’s What to Do.

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Well, Thanksgiving is done and we’ve survived Black Friday but we’re not through the holiday abyss yet.
This means we’ll most likely be dreading the stress, craziness, and visions of perfection shoved down our throats.
For many of us, the holidays can feel dark, lonely, and stressful—especially if we are going through or recovering from divorce. Instead of looking forward to beautiful decorations, the smell of baking pies, and holiday (more...)

Are You In A Bad Marriage During The Holidays?

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You know it to your very core. You’re done. You’ve lived in an unhappy marriage for far too long. The thought of your bad marriage during the holidays AGAIN is almost more than you can bear.
 
Watching your husband overindulge at holiday parties is unbearable. Listening to that fake laugh your wife puts on when she is trying to be social makes you cringe. You hate the way your spouse looks, acts, talks, and (more...)

14 People You Should Thank This Thanksgiving

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Thanksgiving is a holiday favorite for so many people…until you get divorced. Then Thanksgiving can become stressful and depressing at the same time, especially that first year. If this is your first Thanksgiving being separated, please know that you can still enjoy family and friends, and you can and should still feel gratitude for so many things, despite your awful divorce. In this week’s Love Essentially, I list some people who do amazing things, and (more...)

Going Through A Divorce During The Holidays Feels Like A Punch In The Stomach

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Advice for those going through a divorce during the holidays
by Jackie Pilossoph for Chicago Tribune Media Group
Going through a divorce is one of the most difficult life transitions a person can endure. Worrying about finances, the kids, and becoming a single parent amidst the intense emotional pain of the breakup can feel daunting, hopeless, and exhausting.
 

 
If that isn’t hard enough, add in the holidays. Thanksgiving, Christmas, New Year’s and (more...)

Christmas Alone After Divorce

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Spending Christmas alone after divorce can bring heartache that is hard to describe. The expectations about families and Christmas are often unrealistic After divorce, the whole holiday season often causes more sadness and stress than comfort and joy. It doesn’t have to be that way. When you are experiencing your first Christmas after divorce,

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Tips for the early days of single parenting.

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Tips for the early days of single parenting
When you become a single parent there’s often quite a huge amount of change to cope with. You might be dealing with the reality of single parenting, having to move home, start earning for the first time in many years, or start the juggling challenges of co-parenting as you and your former partner adjust to your new situation.
The uncertainty can lead to all kinds of strong emotions. You (more...)

Divorce Without Damage – Your Parenting Plan

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Your Parenting Plan
This is an example of the sort of basic parenting plan that I help the parents I work with to create, as they go through the transition of divorce.
It will help you think through the numerous issues related to co parenting your children from now on – it is designed to get the conversations started ( without anger or misunderstanding) and of course it should be flexible as your children mature, grow up and become more (more...)

Parallel Parenting: It Doesn’t Make You A Bad Parent

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While the emphasis of parenting after divorce is clearly on co-parenting, the fact is that parallel parenting doesn’t make you a bad parent.
Co-parenting is held as the gold standard, the target we’re all to aim for. It means working collaboratively with your ex on everything to do with your child, being jointly actively involved in their school, attending your child’s events together, having consistent rules between your two homes, sharing Holidays and (more...)

Dating Advice: Mixed Signals Means She’s Mixed Up

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Here is an email from a reader (in his late-twenties and recently divorced) seeking dating advice. He is seeing a woman who is 7 years older than he is. The two have known each other for awhile, and she reached out to him when she heard he was divorced.
 
After she had reached out to me, I asked if we could get together over a drink/dinner to simply catch up. We ended up meeting for dinner the (more...)