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How To Avoid A Mistake When You Decide Where To Live After Divorce

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Figuring out where to live after divorce is often very unsettling and is the issue that causes the most upheaval. While you and your STBX are discussing what happens to the marital home, you feel in a state of limbo, uncertain where life will take you. That makes it hard to make other decisions and yet, at least one of you is going to have to move.
Here you are, in the middle of one of life’s (more...)

You Can Mend Your Broken Heart 💔 ➡️💖

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Recovery is often associated with overcoming addiction.  However, for those dealing with divorce, recovery is their reality as well.  So, if you’re dealing with the emotional turmoil of divorce, rather than focus only on what is being lost, try to anticipate positive things that may be gained.

This month we focus on divorce, not as an end, but as a beginning.  The beginning of a new life, perhaps even a new you.  If (more...)

Want A Happy Life After Divorce? You Have To Let Go Of The Past

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If you want a happy life after divorce then you have to let go of the past.
That’s true regardless of the circumstances that led to the end of your marriage and it’s true for all of us. We all learn things about ourselves in this process. We learn about our values, our beliefs, our choices. And, if we do the self-work, we understand where they came from and if they are serving us or (more...)

Divorce Advice: 5 Great Tips for Handling Conflict with Your Ex

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Do you envy those separated parents who still act like best friends? What divorce advice do those ex-couples know who can go out on family outings together like there is no bad blood between them?
If you know any divorced couples who act like this, then they are truly lucky, because most divorced couples can’t stand the sight of one another. Not every post-divorce relationship is going to be ideal. It will take a lot of (more...)

Why It’s Wrong To Think You’re Not A Family After Divorce

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A common reason for not wanting to end a marriage is not to break up the family but that’s flawed logic. It’s wrong to think you’re not a family after divorce.
Ask people who are post-divorce and they’ll tell you that they are still a family, they’re just a little different now.
This tells us two things: being in a family is important to many people and the concept (more...)

In Life After Divorce, Don’t Play Small

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Does life after divorce and a lack of confidence have you playing small? 
by Shannon McGorry
 
“There is no passion to be found playing small – in settling for a life that is less than the one you are capable of living.” – Nelson Mandela
That is one of my favorite quotes and I share it because it helps light the spark in me, and my hope is that it does the same for you.
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Believe It Or Not An Amicable Divorce Is Possible

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The news is routinely filled with sensational stories of divorce gone wrong. We read about vindictive spouses who are hell bent on destroying their exes. We read about greedy lawyers who fan the flames of conflict so that divorces last longer and they make more money. But think about it. What we never read about are stories of an amicable divorce.
No one hears about the people who somehow manage to end their marriages without spending their lives’ (more...)

Divorcing And Not Working? You Might Regret It

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If you’re divorcing and not working, you might regret it. Why?
Standard advice used to be not to go back to work as it would likely impact the alimony you’d receive and not just the amount but also the duration.
You’ll rarely hear that advice these days. Gone are the days of lifetime maintenance, and if you’re not working you’re at risk of being treated as voluntarily unemployed. That (more...)

Why Some People Recover From Divorce And Others Stay Stuck

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We all know that divorce, especially high conflict divorce, can be devastating. Some men and women are so traumatized, that it takes them years to recover from divorce. Really high conflict divorces have even been known to cause post traumatic stress disorder (PTSD).
 
Yet, while some men and women struggle to survive, others thrive. Instead of experiencing post traumatic stress, some people actually seem to experience post traumatic growth! What allows some people to find a bright (more...)

Tips On How To Move On After Infidelity

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A spouse may go through great mental by social agony when they find about the illicit relationship of their partner. In fact, they may constantly think about it till their heads stagger. However, these people need to understand that most of the times their spouses may not depend that kind of energy and they just do not care.  It is better not to dwell too much into their acts of infidelity.
Try to come to terms with your (more...)