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After Divorce, What Would Marie Kondo Say About Your Wedding Memorabilia?

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After a divorce, it can be challenging to discard anything that reminded you of your marriage. If you wanted the divorce, it may feel healing to blow up or trash your wedding dress once the papers are filed. For others, especially those with children, you may decide to save some wedding memorabilia for their memories or special day. The next decisions you must make are what to save and what to discard.
Have you considered the KonMari method of (more...)

Are You Sure About Divorce? These 8 Dates Will Help You

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When you make the decision to end your marriage, you want to be sure about divorce. No one wants to make a mistake.
For some people, while it is a hard decision and not something they wanted, it becomes clear that divorce is what needs to happen. Often, these situations involve domestic abuse, addictions and infidelity.
For many other people the decision is much more challenging: they get along OK with their spouse, they parent OK together, they’(more...)

Should I sue for Alienation of Affection?

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If your partner has been unfaithful in your marriage, there are often more pains than just the initial shock of the infidelity. Many couples struggle to return to the same level of love, trust, and security found in the beginning of their marriage after a spouse’s affair. Additionally, if you are a victim of a spouse’s infidelity, you may also harbor resentment towards the person your spouse has been unfaithful with. This person is (more...)

The Marshmallow Test – and why it’s important to teach your kids to WAIT!

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Many years ago, research was carried out to discover why some children become happy, confident, resilient well balanced adults & some don’t.
The findings were very clear regarding those differences: children who succeed have close relationships with others, particularly their immediate family, feel valued in their communities & have a sense of control over some aspects of their lives. While children who are in trouble feel isolated, useless to society and powerless.
The children who find (more...)

Divorce Advice In The Form Of A Fictitious Novel

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They say “Write about what you know,” which I think is why there are countless books written on the subject of divorce. But not every author offers divorce advice via a memoir or a non-fiction guide book. Lots of writers, including Jackie Pilossoph, decided to write a novel after divorce. My reason for writing a novel (versus a guide book) is that I wanted to offer support, advice and inspiration in a fun, entertaining way. So, when (more...)

Helpful Books For People Contemplating Divorce

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This is a guest post by divorce attorney, Anna Krolikowska, offering 7 books for those contemplating divorce or going through one. I know Anna personally and think she is a smart, compassionate and wonderful attorney. Here is her article:
Helpful Books For People Contemplating Divorce
by Anna Krolikowska
 
I am a family law attorney.  In my practice I work with clients who are contemplating or pursuing divorce, or clients who are in the process of crafting their (more...)

The Importance Of Asking For What You Want In A Relationship

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A huge issue in a faltering romantic relationship is when one or both people stop communicating effectively. One aspect of this is when instead of coming out and asking for things they want, hold everything inside and then become angry and resentful toward the other person because they aren’t getting what they want/need. Asking for what you want in a relationship is the topic of this week’s Love Essentially, published in the Chicago Tribune (more...)

Grieving A Divorce? No One Should Tell You How To Feel

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Editors note: I read this wonderful article by Lisa and thought it applied so well to those who might be grieving a divorce. I remember people saying things like, “You’re going to be fine,” “You should be glad it happened now while you’re still young and you can get remarried,” or “Stop feeling sorry for yourself. At least you’re not sick and dying.” I realize they were (more...)

3 Really Bad Reasons For Staying In An Unhealthy Marriage

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 Here’s a synopsis of a reader considering either getting divorced or staying in an unhealthy marriage:
 
She 27 years old, and she and her husband have been together for about a decade. He’s a student and she has been working and supporting him financially almost the entire time. She said one problem with the marriage is that the only thing they do together is watch TV.
 
I’m starting to feel (more...)

Divorce, Islam and me: ‘I will for ever be the woman who left two husbands’

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When my arranged marriage ended, my parents decided to set me up again. But finding love isn’t that easy...I was 19 the first time marriage was mentioned. My mother told me about a young man whose family had expressed an interest in me, and then she promptly left the house. The realisation that I was of marriageable age was clearly as difficult for her as it was surprising to me. I was a geeky young woman (more...)