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The Two Biggest Obstacles In Forgiving A Cheater

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Readers email me frequently, asking for advice on what to do after a spouse cheats. Some of them want to try to work it out, while others are vehemently headed for divorce court. But a lot of spouses are unsure, and their indecision on whether they should stay or leave can go on for months, even years. Although I usually have an opinion on what I think someone should do, I don’t like to give it. Instead, (more...)

Can’t Get Over A Past Relationship?

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What Do You Do When You Can’t Let Go Of A Past Relationship?
By Jackie Pilossoph for Chicago Tribune Media Group
You haven’t laughed in weeks. Pain, loneliness and tears have become part of your normal, everyday life. And hopelessness envelops your soul because the thought of ever finding love again seems impossible.
Ever been in this place after a bad breakup? I sure have.
 

 
Fortunately, and even though it might take some (more...)

Rebuilding Your Self Esteem After Divorce Is Essential!

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By Rosalind Sedacca, CDC
Divorce can be devastating on many levels. In addition to the financial and stress toll on both partners, it can easily wreak havoc on one’s self-esteem. Even those who initiate the divorce process can experience tremendous emotional turmoil resulting in guilt, anxiety and insecurity. Those who were not expecting or in any way desiring the break-up can come away feeling psychologically battered, confused and questioning their own worth.
It’s hard to (more...)

We’re Bringing The Beach To You For A Mini Meditation

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Do you like being by the sea? I do and find it very relaxing to watch the waves coming in to the shore and out again. Many years ago, a colleague of mine who had studied self-hypnosis taught me this simple beach mini meditation and I found it so useful that I have been telling it to my clients ever since.
Whether you are feeling revved up because you are getting irritated or overwhelmed because you have too much (more...)

Four Emotional Benefits of She Sheds

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She sheds offer emotional benefits, keep relationships healthy
by Jackie Pilossoph for Chicago Tribune Media Group
When Cindy Holmes-Fine and her husband moved in together five years ago, their blended family consisted of five kids, all still living at home. Although very happy to have such a large and loving family, Holmes-Fine felt like there were times she needed and wanted some space; alone time, a reprieve, an escape.
Her solution: A “she shed.”
 

 
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Do You Need to Mark an Ending? Saying A ‘Good Goodbye’ & Creating a Personal Ritual Helps You Move Forward

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We all go through endings. Sometimes we say goodbye to friends, family, lovers, partners, jobs and to those who have died. But do you understand how to handle goodbyes with grace, compassion, and kindness?

Have you ever pondered that marking an ending with a simple ritual helps you to move forward, or move on, or be open to the new opportunities that endings create?

An ending is really a new beginning.

Some endings are painful, some are forced (more...)

Why “He Just Doesn’t Make Me Happy” Is An Unhealthy Thought

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Have you ever heard this saying, “Happy wife, happy life?” Or, “It’s my job to make my husband happy?” Or, “He just doesn’t make me happy?” I so often hear people talking about being responsible for someone else’s happiness or holding someone responsible for their satisfaction in life. Think about the pressure of that statement, but also the lack of personal responsibility.

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The Difference Between Being Needy In A Relationship and Having Needs Is Huge

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Ever know someone who was needy in a relationship? Perhaps an ex? Or maybe you? Let’s talk about it.
I was talking with a client who has been in the dating scene since he got divorced several years ago, and has been really working on understanding what he needs in a relationship. He is finding that his needs get clearer once he is in a relationship, because it allows him to really look at what makes for (more...)

Advice For: “We’re Getting Divorced Because My Husband No Longer Wants Children”

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When two people decide they want to get married, I think most discuss whether or not they are on the same page for many, many major life decisions. This includes whether or not to have kids and maybe even how many. But what happens when you get married, and your spouse decides later that he or she changed their mind? Your wife or husband no longer wants children. How devastating would this be??
 
The issue can become major, (more...)

Pros and Cons of Cohabitation Versus Marriage in California

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The subject of whether marriage better or cohabitation warrants a lot of debate based on people’s personal experiences and beliefs. There are some who believe nothing can replace a marriage in a loving relationship, while others beg to differ and believe that cohabitation is equally amazing without the legality of marriage. We discuss some of the benefits and disadvantages of cohabitation over marriage.
Pros of cohabitation over marriage 
One of the most obvious benefits is that (more...)