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The Brutal Pain Of Divorce And 7 Reasons You Should Never Give Up On Happiness

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I cannot describe how heartbreaking I feel when I read comments on Divorced Girl Smiling like this one, that unveil the brutal pain of divorce:
 
How do you shake the “never want to wake up” feeling? I’m so miserable. Every single day is pain and I just want to give up.
 
Before I offer my advice for those feeling the brutal pain of divorce and why you should never give up on being (more...)

Does Guy Having An Emotional Affair With His Boss Deserve Another Chance?

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Any kind of cheating is awful. Feeling betrayed is painful, heart wrenching and terribly disappointing. But I personally think it might be harder for a couple to come back from having an emotional affair. Here is one reader’s story:
My husband and I have been together for 13 years and married for a little over a year. months.
Two months ago, he began constantly texting his (female) supervisor. They sent hundreds upon hundreds of texts a week. (more...)

Are You In An Abusive Relationship?

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Last night was the Super Bowl, so today seemed like an opportune time to publish this post, written by an anonymous author who was in an abusive relationship.
I know, I know… it’s a myth that Super Bowl Sunday spikes the highest incidence of domestic violence. But still, I have to believe that drinking and partying and football can lead to domestic violence and abuse in a relationship. Even more important, EVERY day, domestic violence is (more...)

No-fault divorce to become law

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Couples will no longer have to allocate blame or mutually agree to end their marriagesNo-fault divorces that could replace the protracted courtroom battles couples often face when separating are to be introduced into law.The justice secretary, David Gauke, confirmed he will bring in legislation enacting the reform in the next session of parliament, removing the need for separating couples to wait for years or allocate blame for the collapse of their relationship. Related: The courts can’t (more...)

My husband had an affair, left me and our baby and says he feels no remorse

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He claims our relationship was a mistake. I’m terrified I will have to share my child with this cruel man and long for the person I marriedLast summer, my husband left me and our baby daughter, who was then six months old. It transpired that he had had an emotional affair with a colleague. He spent months telling me what special feelings he had for her. He is now filing for divorce, saying our relationship was a (more...)

Understanding The Stepfamily Cycle.

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Blended Families
The Stepfamily Cycle
I have been working with a lovely family who are finding it hard to adjust to the changes that blending two families together brings.
I always remind my clients that bringing together 2 separate families is a process and not an event, and it takes time and flexibility on everyone’s behalf to settle into new family relationships.
It’s about managing your expectations and keeping the lines of communication open.
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Help for the Littlest Victims of Divorce

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Does divorce do irreparable damage to a child?  While
opinions vary widely, as noted in the following quotes, much depends on the
parents.

“I strongly believe children can thrive through divorce. Children need parents who love them. Children need to know they are safe. Children need stability and sometimes that’s much easier to achieve outside a marriage than in a broken one.” ~ Lisa Hayes

“You can’t underestimate how traumatic divorce is (more...)

How To Get Through Your Divorce Hearing With Ease

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Going through a divorce is tough. You’re already dealing with the emotional fallout of separating from your loved one, and now you have to deal with an actual court hearing.
If this prospect fills you with anxiety and dread, don’t worry, you’re not alone.
Divorce hearings can be scary, especially because there is so much at stake. Not only are you headed into the professional world of lawyers and the unknown, but you (more...)

Divorcing From an Abusive Spouse When you Have a Child Together

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Divorce doesn’t happen overnight. This
fact will undoubtedly make some grumble, but for those living with abusive
spouses it can cause terror and panic. Domestic violence has devastating
effects not only on the victim spouse but also on any child involved in such a
marriage. These children will experience their own share of devastation even
when they are not the target of the violence. As a result, there are some steps
that must be taken to protect (more...)

Dating After Divorce: Advice, Tips, and Why This Is An Exciting Time!

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            Dating after divorce is something many people dread (I definitely dreaded it 11 years ago.) In fact, a lot of couples decide to stay together (not get divorced) because neither wants to start dating again. I mean, isn’t that why you got married in the first place? Because you enjoyed monogamy and didn’t want to go on awkward, uncomfortable dates anymore? So, why would (more...)