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Is It Parental Conflict – Or Divorce – That Most Damages Children?

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By Rosalind Sedacca, CDCParents Fighting Around Kids After DivorceSo often I am asked: Is it divorce or parental discord that most damages children? More and more evidence points at the attitude of the parents being most influential on the outcome for innocent children.Numerous articles by marriage and family therapist Ruth Bettelheim address this topic in ways that are both relevant and, quite surprising for many. That’s because she refutes common misconceptions about divorce and addresses the (more...)

What You Don’t Know About Divorcing As a Parent That Can Hurt Your Kids!

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Divorce catches kids in the middleJanuary is International Child-Centered Divorce Month – a time when divorce filings are highest: after the holidays at the start of the New Year.In recognition of ICCD Month, international Divorce Coach, author and trainer, Rosalind Sedacca, CDC, has gathered family-focused divorce professionals throughout world to give away complimentary ebooks, courses, videos, coaching services and other valuable tools to help parents: Make the best decisions regarding your children before, during and long after (more...)

Is It Divorce – Or Parental Conflict – That Most Damages Children?

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By Rosalind Sedacca, CDCDivorce catches kids in the middleSo often I am asked: Is it divorce or parental discord that most damages children? More and more evidence points at the attitude of the parents being most influential on the outcome for innocent children.Many studies I’ve read about over the past decade all come to the agreement that children are more negatively impacted by parental conflict than by divorce itself. Numerous articles by marriage and family (more...)

Taking a Distribution From a Retirement Account

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{3:00 minutes to read} When Charles and Lisa decided to divorce, they hired attorneys, who negotiated the terms of their agreement. As part of their settlement, Charles would receive $100,000 from Lisa’s 401(k). They had almost no equity in their house and decided that Charles would move out and Lisa would refinance the mortgage. Charles looked for an apartment in the area and quickly realized that the cost to rent was almost as much (more...)

When Going Through a Divorce, Take Care of Your Health!

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{2:18 minutes to read} Going through a separation or divorce can be incredibly stressful. People often find that in the coming days and weeks, they have more time on their hands that perhaps they didn’t before. The time that may have been spent with their spouse or children.
When deciding how to fill this time, don’t forget to take care of you. Surround yourself with people who can support you and in whom you (more...)

Taking a Hard Position During Divorce Negotiations Can Be a Critical Mistake

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{1:18 minutes to read} The decision to end a marriage is painful for everyone involved. Even after couples accept that their relationship is over, the inevitable changes in their lifestyles are often difficult to cope with. It’s hard for parents to imagine not seeing their children every day, or living somewhere else that may not be as nice as the home they currently have. It’s hard for people whose long-term plans included a (more...)

Becoming Involved With Someone Else During Your Divorce Can Be a Critical Mistake

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{1:30 minutes to read} Even if you met someone long after you felt that the marriage was over, it is possible that your current spouse will still feel that this other person contributed, at least in some way, to the end of your marriage.
Involving someone else allows your current spouse to justify any unreasonable position he/she may take during the divorce. After all, you are with someone else who probably contributed to the end of the (more...)

Why is Mediation “Alternative” Dispute Resolution?

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{2:06 minutes to read} I recently did a presentation at the Annual Conference of the New York State Dispute Resolution Association. As part of the presentation, I proposed that ADR should not stand for “Alternative” Dispute Resolution; rather, it should be considered “Appropriate” Dispute Resolution, which is a concept I first heard from a former colleague, the late Peter Glassman.
This is not simply a different way to phrase what mediators do; it is (more...)

7 Things You Need To Know About Pets And Divorce

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If your pet is family to you, then there are 7 things you need to know about pets and divorce.
Perhaps the single most important thing to know is that while your pet is a member of your family, the law in most places of the U.S. treats your pet as property. That means that if you and your STBX can’t come to an agreement on sharing your pet and a judge has to decide what (more...)

Cohabitating Instead of Getting Married? Get an Agreement First! Part 2

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Cohabitating Instead of Getting Married? Get an Agreement First! Part 2 – Burns Mediation

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Cohabitating Instead of Getting Married? Get an Agreement First! Part 2

{3:18 minutes to read} In Part 1 of this series, I proposed that an unmarried couple enters (more...)