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What Halloween Candy Reveals About Your Divorce

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Tis the season – no, not Christmas yet – of Halloween candy. Whether you buy it at the store and eat it all before the trick-or-treating or your children bring loads of it home on October 31, there will be candy and it will be tempting.
You may have memories of your own trick-or-treating fun as you watch your children choose which candy is their favorite, which gets thrown or traded away, and which ones they absolutely must share (more...)

Do You Need to Mark an Ending? Saying A ‘Good Goodbye’ & Creating a Personal Ritual Helps You Move Forward

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We all go through endings. Sometimes we say goodbye to friends, family, lovers, partners, jobs and to those who have died. But do you understand how to handle goodbyes with grace, compassion, and kindness?

Have you ever pondered that marking an ending with a simple ritual helps you to move forward, or move on, or be open to the new opportunities that endings create?

An ending is really a new beginning.

Some endings are painful, some are forced (more...)

The Difference Between Being Needy In A Relationship and Having Needs Is Huge

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Ever know someone who was needy in a relationship? Perhaps an ex? Or maybe you? Let’s talk about it.
I was talking with a client who has been in the dating scene since he got divorced several years ago, and has been really working on understanding what he needs in a relationship. He is finding that his needs get clearer once he is in a relationship, because it allows him to really look at what makes for (more...)

Advice For: “We’re Getting Divorced Because My Husband No Longer Wants Children”

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When two people decide they want to get married, I think most discuss whether or not they are on the same page for many, many major life decisions. This includes whether or not to have kids and maybe even how many. But what happens when you get married, and your spouse decides later that he or she changed their mind? Your wife or husband no longer wants children. How devastating would this be??
 
The issue can become major, (more...)

5 Reasons Why A Rebound Relationship May Be Just What You Need

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Guest Post by Terry Gaspard
As a newly divorced woman with two school age children, I plunged into a rebound relationship with someone who provided solace, companionship, and emotional and sexual intimacy. Since neither one of us had healed sufficiently from our recent divorces, the relationship ended after six months.
While we weren’t ready for a commitment, my ex-boyfriend helped me overcome my challenging divorce and gave me self-confidence. This relationship helped me to get over my (more...)

5 Steps To A Brighter Future After Divorce!

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By Rosalind Sedacca, CDC
Accepting the reality and finality of divorce can be a tough challenge. We need to be able to let go of the life we knew and prepare to face an unknown future. That can be intimidating. Here are 5 key steps to accepting your new reality with grace, peace and positive expectations for a happier life ahead, especially if you’re also a parent!
1) Focus on yourself — not on your former spouse
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Trial Separations: Do They Work?

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When your marriage is increasingly off track or seemingly headed for a cliff, sometimes it’s good to agree to a trial separation to get some time and space between you.  A trial separation can be a cooling off period or a time to really rethink where your marriage is headed. At times, the marital

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What are the Consequences of Not Paying Child Support in Oklahoma?

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After a divorce or child custody order, one parent is deemed the custodial parent, and the other the non-custodial parent. The non-custodial parent must pay child support to the other parent if ordered to do so. 
Not paying child support obligations can have a huge impact on your life and severe consequences. If your spouse is not paying child support or you are ordered to court because you aren’t paying child support, it is a very (more...)

Why Some People Recover From Divorce And Others Stay Stuck

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We all know that divorce, especially high conflict divorce, can be devastating. Some men and women are so traumatized, that it takes them years to recover from divorce. Really high conflict divorces have even been known to cause post traumatic stress disorder (PTSD).
 
Yet, while some men and women struggle to survive, others thrive. Instead of experiencing post traumatic stress, some people actually seem to experience post traumatic growth! What allows some people to find a bright (more...)

6 Tips To Staying Happy In Your Relationship

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Most of us have heard of the concept of looking at our relationship with our partner as a garden that we plant and tend. The concept being that as with a garden, we plant the seeds of our relationship with another, and watch as it blooms into something that brings beauty and joy into our lives. We need to tend to the relationship as we would a garden; nurturing it, “watering” it, paying attention to weeds, (problems) (more...)