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What Should Mothers Do When They Lose Custodial Fights?

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For a parent, there is no greater loss after a divorce than losing custodial rights of their children. There are many grounds on which a court in California can award custodial rights to a father. Substance addiction, abuse and neglect are the topmost reasons and also, mothers who are not financially stable can find themselves on the losing end.
So, what should mothers do when they lose custodial battles? Completely losing custody of one’s children can have (more...)

How To Be Financially Stable And Secure After Divorce

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Divorce rocks a person’s financial stability and security like no other life event. Even if you saw it coming, you may not have made all the steps needed to go from two incomes to one. Settlements are messy and are messier if you have children. Usually, one parent pays child support and that can be a hardship. But child support often doesn’t make up for sharing all of the household expense and debt so the (more...)

Tired Of Feeling Resentful? Here’s What To Remember

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Getting your life back after divorce can be hard. There are financial issues, co-parenting, and emotional roller-coasters to ride that can leave us feeling exhausted, wondering if we’ll ever move on and feel happy. Among these stressors, two of the most challenging obstacles to overcome when recovering from divorce will grab hold of even the most patient of people.
Resentment and bitterness.
Resentment is nasty. What makes it so ugly is that it has a tendency to (more...)

How Gifts from a Softer Side of Divorce Can Help You Recover

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Divorce is an experience that is...well...just depressing. Divorce disempowers, holds couples hostage, steals, haunts, and overstays its welcome. How does one cope with divorce and life afterwards? One way is by accepting the gifts divorce's softer side offers.


Is It Parental Conflict – Or Divorce – That Most Damages Children?

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By Rosalind Sedacca, CDCParents Fighting Around Kids After DivorceSo often I am asked: Is it divorce or parental discord that most damages children? More and more evidence points at the attitude of the parents being most influential on the outcome for innocent children.Numerous articles by marriage and family therapist Ruth Bettelheim address this topic in ways that are both relevant and, quite surprising for many. That’s because she refutes common misconceptions about divorce and addresses the (more...)

Is There a “Gift” in Your Divorce? Find the “Silver Lining” and You Will Flourish!

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Find the reward in your divorce experience.By Rosalind Sedacca, CDCWhen we are in the midst of life trauma, like a divorce, it is very difficult to experience anything but the pain, disappointment, hurt and anguish related to that experience. That’s only natural. But very often, in hindsight, we can find meaning, relevance, valuable lessons and insights that were the direct result of those major life challenges. Without that life-altering event we would not become the more (more...)

Is It Divorce – Or Parental Conflict – That Most Damages Children?

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By Rosalind Sedacca, CDCDivorce catches kids in the middleSo often I am asked: Is it divorce or parental discord that most damages children? More and more evidence points at the attitude of the parents being most influential on the outcome for innocent children.Many studies I’ve read about over the past decade all come to the agreement that children are more negatively impacted by parental conflict than by divorce itself. Numerous articles by marriage and family (more...)

7 Steps To Forgiving Your Ex Once and For All

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Forgiveness is the gift you give yourself so you can move on to healthier relationshipsBy Terry Gaspard, MSW, LICSWForgiving others and yourself is infinitely terrifying yet necessary for achieving healthy relationships. It’s about being willing to acknowledge that you are capable of being wounded and able to risk exposing yourself. It also means that you’re stepping out of the role of a victim and taking charge of your life.Forgiveness is one of the (more...)

Eight Common Compensation Issues In Divorce

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Compensation issues in divorce usually come up in discussions about spousal support or alimony, and child support. While child support can be pretty formulaic with well-established rules for addressing different compensation concerns, spousal support is much more variable and often is not as straightforward as simply taking a number off a pay stub.
Other compensation issues such as stock options and deferred compensation impact division of assets negotiations. These arrangements can be complex and confusing with even the recipient (more...)

How to Cope With Divorce And The Threat Of Suicide

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The risk of suicide increases significantly with divorce. Knowing how to respond if you, your STBX or your child becomes suicidal is critical.
How do you know when to take a suicide threat seriously?
Should you put the divorce on hold or promise not to divorce?
Is it your fault if your STBX ends their life?
As a divorce coach, I worked with a few clients whose STBX has chosen to end their life during the divorce process. It&(more...)