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Separated But Living In The Same House…And Sleeping In The Same Bed

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 When a couple decides to separate, there are so many factors involved in what comes next. There are couples in which one person decides to move out immediately. There are couples who sell the home and both find new residences. And, there are couples who are separated but living in the same house.
 
There are a few reasons a couple might decide to remain living together for awhile. Perhaps the biggest reason: the kids. Maybe they want (more...)

Desperately Looking To Meet Someone? This Article Is For YOU

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I work with and personally know so many people who are desperately looking to meet someone; to find their “soulmates”, and who feel a sense of emptiness and loneliness because they are not part of a couple.
Generally, finding love later in life can be difficult. As we age, we have to assume that each of us is “fully baked” when you meet.  Trying to mold and shape someone who has already lived a (more...)

Two Perspectives: “I Left My Husband” Versus “My Wife Left Me”

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From someone who has been receiving emails and comments from readers for almost 6 years, I can say with certainty that I’ve heard tens of thousands of heartbreaking stories having to do with marital problems, divorce, and dating and relationships. When it comes to the people who write me about divorce, the two most common scenarios are: “I left my husband” or “My wife left me.”
I’m not saying men don&(more...)

Christmas Day While Going Through A Divorce

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Christmas day while going through divorce: devastating? sad? lonely? upsetting? painful? awkward? longing? will never be the same? There are so many feelings on this day…
 
If you are newly separated…
This might be a tough day for you. Please know that God is with you, and that your family, your kids, your friends and other people you know love and care deeply for you. Next year at this time, life will look a lot different, (more...)

Relationship Advice: Looking Back at 2018

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2018 was the busiest and most productive year of my career. I traveled seventeen weekends to train others to become life and executive coaches, I led communication and women’s leadership courses, and I worked with my individual life and executive clients. I certainly hope they all benefited from their time with me. However, I’m pretty sure that I’m the one who learned the most from them. Here is some relationship advice, based on (more...)

A Key Component In Managing Anxiety and Being Happier

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I hate to say it, but anxiety, stress and unhappiness are an epidemic. Thanks to technology, social media and the expectation of constantly answering to others, our world has taken accountability to a new level, one which has caused so much added stress, frustration, and panic, almost, which  eventually leads to wrong priorities and unhappiness. There are countless articles on managing anxiety and being happier, but I have one idea that I feel will surely help.
I’(more...)

Unwanted Divorce

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I didn’t want to be divorced. I always thought my ex and I could fix anything and could even be stronger than ever. But when I finally realized I couldn’t save my marriage, and my unwanted divorce was final, I wondered how I could survive. I honestly thought I would never really be happy

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There Is No Easy Or Quick Way To Heal From Divorce

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We all need to heal from divorce. That applies just as much to the person who initiates the divorce as the person whose spouse makes the decision.
The healing process stirs up a lot of feelings and hurts from our childhood and family of origin, our societal and cultural norms and expectations and, of course from the marriage itself and previous committed relationships.
It’s no wonder many people avoid the work of healing! Yet, if you skip (more...)

Stressed About the Holidays? Here’s What to Do.

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Well, Thanksgiving is done and we’ve survived Black Friday but we’re not through the holiday abyss yet.
This means we’ll most likely be dreading the stress, craziness, and visions of perfection shoved down our throats.
For many of us, the holidays can feel dark, lonely, and stressful—especially if we are going through or recovering from divorce. Instead of looking forward to beautiful decorations, the smell of baking pies, and holiday (more...)

Is He Your Transitional Man Or Is He The One?

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What is a transitional relationship and how can they help you find love? A transitional man (or woman) is the first significant relationship that usually comes after a long term relationship or marriage. They are someone who helps you find your footing, after a difficult breakup.
I began thinking about my transitional man when I had a conversation with a group of women about divorce, relationships and love. We began talking about the men we had dated and realized (more...)