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Are You Sure About Divorce? These 8 Dates Will Help You

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When you make the decision to end your marriage, you want to be sure about divorce. No one wants to make a mistake.
For some people, while it is a hard decision and not something they wanted, it becomes clear that divorce is what needs to happen. Often, these situations involve domestic abuse, addictions and infidelity.
For many other people the decision is much more challenging: they get along OK with their spouse, they parent OK together, they’(more...)

Divorce Advice: 5 Great Tips for Handling Conflict with Your Ex

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Do you envy those separated parents who still act like best friends? What divorce advice do those ex-couples know who can go out on family outings together like there is no bad blood between them?
If you know any divorced couples who act like this, then they are truly lucky, because most divorced couples can’t stand the sight of one another. Not every post-divorce relationship is going to be ideal. It will take a lot of (more...)

Child Custody Statutes

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Child custody statutes. Click one to see an in depth description.

§ 50-11.1. Children born of voidable marriage legitimate.

§ 50-11.2. Judgment provisions pertaining to care, custody, tuition and maintenance of minor children.

§ 50‑13.1. Action or proceeding for custody of minor child.

§ 50-13.2. Who entitled to custody; terms of custody; visitation rights of grandparents; taking child out of State

§ 50-13.2A. Action for visitation of an adopted grandchild

§ 50-13.(more...)

The Marshmallow Test – and why it’s important to teach your kids to WAIT!

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Many years ago, research was carried out to discover why some children become happy, confident, resilient well balanced adults & some don’t.
The findings were very clear regarding those differences: children who succeed have close relationships with others, particularly their immediate family, feel valued in their communities & have a sense of control over some aspects of their lives. While children who are in trouble feel isolated, useless to society and powerless.
The children who find (more...)

Helpful Books For People Contemplating Divorce

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This is a guest post by divorce attorney, Anna Krolikowska, offering 7 books for those contemplating divorce or going through one. I know Anna personally and think she is a smart, compassionate and wonderful attorney. Here is her article:
Helpful Books For People Contemplating Divorce
by Anna Krolikowska
 
I am a family law attorney.  In my practice I work with clients who are contemplating or pursuing divorce, or clients who are in the process of crafting their (more...)

Grieving A Divorce? No One Should Tell You How To Feel

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Editors note: I read this wonderful article by Lisa and thought it applied so well to those who might be grieving a divorce. I remember people saying things like, “You’re going to be fine,” “You should be glad it happened now while you’re still young and you can get remarried,” or “Stop feeling sorry for yourself. At least you’re not sick and dying.” I realize they were (more...)

Understanding The Stepfamily Cycle.

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Blended Families
The Stepfamily Cycle
I have been working with a lovely family who are finding it hard to adjust to the changes that blending two families together brings.
I always remind my clients that bringing together 2 separate families is a process and not an event, and it takes time and flexibility on everyone’s behalf to settle into new family relationships.
It’s about managing your expectations and keeping the lines of communication open.
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Why It’s Wrong To Think You’re Not A Family After Divorce

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A common reason for not wanting to end a marriage is not to break up the family but that’s flawed logic. It’s wrong to think you’re not a family after divorce.
Ask people who are post-divorce and they’ll tell you that they are still a family, they’re just a little different now.
This tells us two things: being in a family is important to many people and the concept (more...)

How To Get Through Your Divorce Hearing With Ease

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Going through a divorce is tough. You’re already dealing with the emotional fallout of separating from your loved one, and now you have to deal with an actual court hearing.
If this prospect fills you with anxiety and dread, don’t worry, you’re not alone.
Divorce hearings can be scary, especially because there is so much at stake. Not only are you headed into the professional world of lawyers and the unknown, but you (more...)

Gay and Transgender Divorce: A Guide for LGBT Couples in NC

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The right to same-sex marriage – and divorce

In
2014, same-sex couples in North Carolina won the right to marry in the case of General Synod of the United Church of Christ
v. Cooper. The landmark decision in Obergefell
just one year later solidified the right of same-sex couples and transgender
individuals to get married in all 50 states. While the marriage equality
movement emphasized the historic victory that was same-sex marriage, the
reality is that same-sex couples face (more...)