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There Is No Easy Or Quick Way To Heal From Divorce

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We all need to heal from divorce. That applies just as much to the person who initiates the divorce as the person whose spouse makes the decision.
The healing process stirs up a lot of feelings and hurts from our childhood and family of origin, our societal and cultural norms and expectations and, of course from the marriage itself and previous committed relationships.
It’s no wonder many people avoid the work of healing! Yet, if you skip (more...)

Is He Your Transitional Man Or Is He The One?

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What is a transitional relationship and how can they help you find love? A transitional man (or woman) is the first significant relationship that usually comes after a long term relationship or marriage. They are someone who helps you find your footing, after a difficult breakup.
I began thinking about my transitional man when I had a conversation with a group of women about divorce, relationships and love. We began talking about the men we had dated and realized (more...)

No, You’re Not Going Crazy! You’re Going Through a Divorce!

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There is no doubt that going through a divorce can be brutal, and anyone who has ever been through one will tell you that emotions can be so intense, you might feel like you are going crazy! But you’re not. Here are some things that can make someone going through a divorce feel unstable, along with why you’re not, and my advice.
• Change is happening-on every level of your life.
Divorce in its very (more...)

Rebuilding Your Self Esteem After Divorce Is Essential!

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By Rosalind Sedacca, CDC
Divorce can be devastating on many levels. In addition to the financial and stress toll on both partners, it can easily wreak havoc on one’s self-esteem. Even those who initiate the divorce process can experience tremendous emotional turmoil resulting in guilt, anxiety and insecurity. Those who were not expecting or in any way desiring the break-up can come away feeling psychologically battered, confused and questioning their own worth.
It’s hard to (more...)

Four Emotional Benefits of She Sheds

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She sheds offer emotional benefits, keep relationships healthy
by Jackie Pilossoph for Chicago Tribune Media Group
When Cindy Holmes-Fine and her husband moved in together five years ago, their blended family consisted of five kids, all still living at home. Although very happy to have such a large and loving family, Holmes-Fine felt like there were times she needed and wanted some space; alone time, a reprieve, an escape.
Her solution: A “she shed.”
 

 
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The Difference Between Being Needy In A Relationship and Having Needs Is Huge

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Ever know someone who was needy in a relationship? Perhaps an ex? Or maybe you? Let’s talk about it.
I was talking with a client who has been in the dating scene since he got divorced several years ago, and has been really working on understanding what he needs in a relationship. He is finding that his needs get clearer once he is in a relationship, because it allows him to really look at what makes for (more...)

Relationship Gem Drops From Jada Pinkett Smith

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This weekend Jada Pinkett Smith took to Instagram to once again give us all a little bit of her valued relationship wisdom.
This week on what we like to call “Jada’s Jem’s,”Jada reminds us about mastering and being our best selves. She reminds us that although some of us have been victims of infidelity, she makes sure to let us know that it is not our fault. Jada encourages (more...)

5 Reasons Why A Rebound Relationship May Be Just What You Need

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Guest Post by Terry Gaspard
As a newly divorced woman with two school age children, I plunged into a rebound relationship with someone who provided solace, companionship, and emotional and sexual intimacy. Since neither one of us had healed sufficiently from our recent divorces, the relationship ended after six months.
While we weren’t ready for a commitment, my ex-boyfriend helped me overcome my challenging divorce and gave me self-confidence. This relationship helped me to get over my (more...)

Should I Break Up With My Boyfriend?

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This reader is wondering, “Should I break up with my boyfriend?” Here is her email, along with my advice.
Dear Anita,
I’m in a 5-month relationship with my boyfriend. Things were great in the beginning but it’s been rocky the last couple of months. We’ve been arguing more and I don’t hear from him as often as I used to. I thought he was “The One” but (more...)

Why Some People Recover From Divorce And Others Stay Stuck

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We all know that divorce, especially high conflict divorce, can be devastating. Some men and women are so traumatized, that it takes them years to recover from divorce. Really high conflict divorces have even been known to cause post traumatic stress disorder (PTSD).
 
Yet, while some men and women struggle to survive, others thrive. Instead of experiencing post traumatic stress, some people actually seem to experience post traumatic growth! What allows some people to find a bright (more...)