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Creating A Divorce Safety Plan In Case Of Domestic Abuse

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If you are in danger, call “911” immediately. You are solely responsible for keeping yourself and also your children away from any harm due to domestic violence. You must prepare a safety plan. A safety plan is a scheme which you can execute to keep yourself and your children safe from any kind of domestic violence. It is possible to ask for help to craft a safety plan. Assistance is generally provided free or you will be (more...)

Read This If you Are Having Trouble Getting Over The Ex

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For some reason, right now I know a few different people who are recently broken up and having trouble getting over the ex. I have certainly been there, and so has every  person who has ever gone through a divorce, or been through a breakup.
 
When a spouse moves out or when you finally end things with someone, at first, many people feel relieved because they are now getting the space they need to figure things out, (more...)

Why Some People Recover From Divorce And Others Stay Stuck

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We all know that divorce, especially high conflict divorce, can be devastating. Some men and women are so traumatized, that it takes them years to recover from divorce. Really high conflict divorces have even been known to cause post traumatic stress disorder (PTSD).
 
Yet, while some men and women struggle to survive, others thrive. Instead of experiencing post traumatic stress, some people actually seem to experience post traumatic growth! What allows some people to find a bright (more...)

Tips On How To Move On After Infidelity

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A spouse may go through great mental by social agony when they find about the illicit relationship of their partner. In fact, they may constantly think about it till their heads stagger. However, these people need to understand that most of the times their spouses may not depend that kind of energy and they just do not care.  It is better not to dwell too much into their acts of infidelity.
Try to come to terms with your (more...)

On My Birthday I Will Be Present And Open Presents

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Today is my birthday. I’m 53 and I want to share some thoughts on how to be present and what that means to me.
 
A few months ago, I was having an argument with someone and he said, “You know what your problem is? You’ve never had anything bad happen to you. That’s why you write about all this stupid divorce drama.”
 
OK… First of all, my dad (more...)

Alcohol Addiction And Divorce Often Go Hand In Hand

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 I remember hearing awhile back that alcohol addiction was the number one cause of divorce. I don’t know if that’s true, but if it is, I wouldn’t be surprised. Alcohol addiction and divorce go hand in hand if the addict doesn’t get help. Read this reader’s story:
 
My husband and I are in our 60’s and have been married for 22 years. We are in (more...)

How Does an Oklahoma Court Divide Property During a Contested Divorce?

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If you have begun the divorce process, you are probably concerned as to how your assets and your personal property will be divided.
This is especially a concern in a contested divorce when spouses cannot agree on what items will be assigned to whom, or how to divide assets that spouses consider personal items.
Oklahoma is a state that observes “equitable division,” emphasizing concepts of justice and fairness as the procedure to divide assets when there (more...)

Why Taking The High Road In Divorce Matters And 10 Ways To Do It

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Taking the high road in divorce is not easy. As a matter of fact, it might seem downright unfair, and even stupid sometimes. Why would you ever want to do anything good, or fair, or nice to someone who just destroyed your family, your dreams, and your heart?
If you have kids, the obvious reason is to do it for their sake. Because whether you like it or not, you and your ex are going to be your kids&(more...)

How To Pick Your Divorce Battles

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It came down to three things, all of which seem so silly right now: a nice car, new furniture, and when to drop off the dogs on the weekend. These things were my lines in the sand—what I had chosen to fight over during my divorce. I hadn’t learned then that you have to pick your divorce battles. Most people going through a split haven’t
When we are fighting during divorce, we (more...)

How To Deal With The End Of Your Marriage

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Whether you’re the person leaving or the one being left, few of us are prepared for the challenge and you have to figure out how to deal with the end of your marriage.
Getting a legal assessment and figuring out the financial implications of a divorce are important and they can help you assess how your lifestyle will be impacted. Assessing your relationship however is much harder. You can’t put that on a spreadsheet and (more...)