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On My Birthday I Will Be Present And Open Presents

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Today is my birthday. I’m 53 and I want to share some thoughts on how to be present and what that means to me.
A few months ago, I was having an argument with someone and he said, “You know what your problem is? You’ve never had anything bad happen to you. That’s why you write about all this stupid divorce drama.”
OK… First of all, my dad (more...)

Alcohol Addiction And Divorce Often Go Hand In Hand

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 I remember hearing awhile back that alcohol addiction was the number one cause of divorce. I don’t know if that’s true, but if it is, I wouldn’t be surprised. Alcohol addiction and divorce go hand in hand if the addict doesn’t get help. Read this reader’s story:
My husband and I are in our 60’s and have been married for 22 years. We are in (more...)

How Does an Oklahoma Court Divide Property During a Contested Divorce?

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If you have begun the divorce process, you are probably concerned as to how your assets and your personal property will be divided.
This is especially a concern in a contested divorce when spouses cannot agree on what items will be assigned to whom, or how to divide assets that spouses consider personal items.
Oklahoma is a state that observes “equitable division,” emphasizing concepts of justice and fairness as the procedure to divide assets when there (more...)

Why Taking The High Road In Divorce Matters And 10 Ways To Do It

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Taking the high road in divorce is not easy. As a matter of fact, it might seem downright unfair, and even stupid sometimes. Why would you ever want to do anything good, or fair, or nice to someone who just destroyed your family, your dreams, and your heart?
If you have kids, the obvious reason is to do it for their sake. Because whether you like it or not, you and your ex are going to be your kids&(more...)

How To Pick Your Divorce Battles

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It came down to three things, all of which seem so silly right now: a nice car, new furniture, and when to drop off the dogs on the weekend. These things were my lines in the sand—what I had chosen to fight over during my divorce. I hadn’t learned then that you have to pick your divorce battles. Most people going through a split haven’t
When we are fighting during divorce, we (more...)

How To Deal With The End Of Your Marriage

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Whether you’re the person leaving or the one being left, few of us are prepared for the challenge and you have to figure out how to deal with the end of your marriage.
Getting a legal assessment and figuring out the financial implications of a divorce are important and they can help you assess how your lifestyle will be impacted. Assessing your relationship however is much harder. You can’t put that on a spreadsheet and (more...)

How To Survive And Enjoy Wedding Season After Divorce

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If you’re in the midst of a divorce or newly single then a wedding might be the last event you want to attend but divorce coach Elise Pettus says go. There are ways to survive and enjoy wedding season after divorce.
Is there a time when you should say no to an invite?
Can you go solo, even if you and your spouse have not yet gone public with your divorce?
If you don’t want (more...)

Age by Age Guide in Helping Children Understand Divorce

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If divorce is confusing for adults then you know it’s even more confusing for kids. What you need is an age by age guide in helping children understand divorce.
0 to 5 Years
At this stage, a child is a baby or toddler. They have a major dependence on parents and caretakers for all of their needs, as they are not old enough to feed, clothe and take care of themselves. Children of this age can’(more...)

Art Projects You Can Do with Your Children for Father’s Day

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With Mother’s Day just finishing up, it’s time to turn your attention to Father’s Day. For those who are either single parents or recently divorced, these holidays can prove to be difficult.

Regardless of what your relationship with your ex may be, you’ve never wanted it to affect the upbringing of your child or how your child perceives their other parent. As such, Mother’s Day and Father&(more...)

How To Tell Your Children About the Divorce: A Proven Approach That’s Sensitive and Sane!

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The best approach to breaking the divorce news to your children!By Rosalind Sedacca, DCD Few children outgrow the warm comfort of a bedtime tale. And like most kids, my son always enjoyed his baby pictures – watching himself grow and change. Divorce is certainly no fairytale, but I thought, ‘Maybe combing a story with our own family photos will help him grasp the biggest, most dramatic change of his life.’When I decided to end (more...)