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Unwanted Divorce

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I didn’t want to be divorced. I always thought my ex and I could fix anything and could even be stronger than ever. But when I finally realized I couldn’t save my marriage, and my unwanted divorce was final, I wondered how I could survive. I honestly thought I would never really be happy

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Find Grace With Gratitude & Forgiveness

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Sometimes in life when we feel that the challenges we face are insurmountable, it can be difficult to feel thankful for much of anything.  Yet gratitude is exactly what is needed in the most challenging of days. Taking a moment during the chaos to breathe into what’s right among all that is wrong, is an act of grace and grounding.
“Gratitude makes sense of our past, brings peace for today, and creates a (more...)

Stressed About the Holidays? Here’s What to Do.

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Well, Thanksgiving is done and we’ve survived Black Friday but we’re not through the holiday abyss yet.
This means we’ll most likely be dreading the stress, craziness, and visions of perfection shoved down our throats.
For many of us, the holidays can feel dark, lonely, and stressful—especially if we are going through or recovering from divorce. Instead of looking forward to beautiful decorations, the smell of baking pies, and holiday (more...)

Are You In A Bad Marriage During The Holidays?

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You know it to your very core. You’re done. You’ve lived in an unhappy marriage for far too long. The thought of your bad marriage during the holidays AGAIN is almost more than you can bear.
 
Watching your husband overindulge at holiday parties is unbearable. Listening to that fake laugh your wife puts on when she is trying to be social makes you cringe. You hate the way your spouse looks, acts, talks, and (more...)

Read This If you Are Having Trouble Getting Over The Ex

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For some reason, right now I know a few different people who are recently broken up and having trouble getting over the ex. I have certainly been there, and so has every  person who has ever gone through a divorce, or been through a breakup.
 
When a spouse moves out or when you finally end things with someone, at first, many people feel relieved because they are now getting the space they need to figure things out, (more...)

Why Some People Recover From Divorce And Others Stay Stuck

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We all know that divorce, especially high conflict divorce, can be devastating. Some men and women are so traumatized, that it takes them years to recover from divorce. Really high conflict divorces have even been known to cause post traumatic stress disorder (PTSD).
 
Yet, while some men and women struggle to survive, others thrive. Instead of experiencing post traumatic stress, some people actually seem to experience post traumatic growth! What allows some people to find a bright (more...)

On My Birthday I Will Be Present And Open Presents

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Today is my birthday. I’m 53 and I want to share some thoughts on how to be present and what that means to me.
 
A few months ago, I was having an argument with someone and he said, “You know what your problem is? You’ve never had anything bad happen to you. That’s why you write about all this stupid divorce drama.”
 
OK… First of all, my dad (more...)

Alcohol Addiction And Divorce Often Go Hand In Hand

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 I remember hearing awhile back that alcohol addiction was the number one cause of divorce. I don’t know if that’s true, but if it is, I wouldn’t be surprised. Alcohol addiction and divorce go hand in hand if the addict doesn’t get help. Read this reader’s story:
 
My husband and I are in our 60’s and have been married for 22 years. We are in (more...)

How Does an Oklahoma Court Divide Property During a Contested Divorce?

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If you have begun the divorce process, you are probably concerned as to how your assets and your personal property will be divided.
This is especially a concern in a contested divorce when spouses cannot agree on what items will be assigned to whom, or how to divide assets that spouses consider personal items.
Oklahoma is a state that observes “equitable division,” emphasizing concepts of justice and fairness as the procedure to divide assets when there (more...)

Why Taking The High Road In Divorce Matters And 10 Ways To Do It

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Taking the high road in divorce is not easy. As a matter of fact, it might seem downright unfair, and even stupid sometimes. Why would you ever want to do anything good, or fair, or nice to someone who just destroyed your family, your dreams, and your heart?
If you have kids, the obvious reason is to do it for their sake. Because whether you like it or not, you and your ex are going to be your kids&(more...)