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The Painful Truths About Child Custody Battles You Need To Know

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The ugliness and hurtful allegations that seem common to celebrity divorces, are also mainstays of many custody fights. There are painful truths about custody battles you need to know.
They’re always ugly, always expensive and once started, there’s rarely any backtracking. Once the accusations have been made, there’s no taking them back. They can’t be erased.
The impact these battles have can spread far and wide. The children at the (more...)

Smart Divorce: Table of Contents

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Contents
YOUR FIRST VISIT I
Welcome. IIIQuestions to Ask Your Lawyer VWhat are your practice areas and credentials? VAre you trained in alternative forms of dispute resolution? VCan you tell me, in advance, how much this divorce is going to cost and will you guarantee that price? VHow many cases do you handle at one time? VICan I Count On You? VIIOur Promises to You VIIPromise One: We treat you like a person not a case number. VIIPromise Two: (more...)

Collaborative Divorce

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The next stop along the Spectrum of Control, if kitchen-table negotiations clearly aren’t going to work, is collaborative divorce.
Collaborative Divorce – A No-Court, Solutions-Based Approach
How can you divide twelve oranges in half and still give both parties twelve oranges? Depending on the part of the orange each wants (the zest or the meat), the division can be fast, simple, and mutually gratifying—as long as both parties understand what is valuable to the other. (more...)

Mediation

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Mediation is the most common dispute resolution option; however, it is often misunderstood. Mediation allows you and your spouse to reach a fair settlement with the help of a third, neutral party called a mediator. Mediators, who can be lawyers, mental health professionals, clergy, or other professionals trained in alternative dispute resolution techniques, help you and your spouse identify and resolve issues. Basically, mediation is similar to sitting down to negotiate with the help of a referee.
The most (more...)

Is Your Divorce Costing YOU a Fortune?

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Lisa and her team hope all you Dads out there had a very happy Father’s Day! With this being the first Father’s Day for and her children since the death of her cherished husband, Ron, she carries even more empathy now for those who are separated from their parents or children; and the incredible worth of a Dad in a child’s life.
For those of you dealing with divorce, holidays like this one (more...)

Shielding Your Child From Emotional Trauma During Divorce

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Parents are terrified of how divorce affects children. This is most acute during the process of divorce. In fact, the fear of something bad happening to the children is the reason most unhappy marriages persist longer than they should. It can be constant struggle to consider what is best for the kids. Both parents seek the optimal way to guide them through the navigation. For both the parents and the children, the whole process may appear like an unending (more...)

Choosing Between Mediation vs Litigation vs Collaborative Divorce

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Divorce is never easy, no matter how amicable it is. There are numerous assets and properties that need to be divided, not to mention custody of children and other aspects. In California, a person that files for divorce has 3 ways to proceed – mediation, litigation and a collaborative divorce. There is no universal best choice among the 3 and each method is suitable for certain circumstances.
Mediation
Mediation is the process where a divorcing couple sits with an (more...)

How To Have A Good Divorce

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The phrase “a good divorce” sounds like an oxymoron. It doesn’t seem possible. The word “divorce” comes laden with negativity, fear and judgement.
When we see divorce in the media and the movies it’s overwhelmingly about conflict. Amicable or civil divorces aren’t considered news unless there’s a weirdness factor associated with them such as Gywneth Paltrow’s “Conscious Uncoupling.”
Our own beliefs and expectations (more...)

How To Save Money On The Legal Costs Of Your Divorce

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Saving money on the legal costs of your divorce is something most people would love to do. Not spending money on legal advice is one way to do that but as the British would say, that’s being penny wise, pound foolish. Most people would benefit from at least some legal help even if it’s one-time consultation on a specific issue.
If you have any sort of complication such as an inheritance that’s been (more...)

Going for A Collaborative Or Mediated Divorce

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Divorce courts in California work under the same rules used to courts to tackle other disputes. It is seen  frequently that such courts are unable to function properly in solving disputes related to divorce. Collaborative or mediation law can turn out to be better in such cases.
Court alternatives
Divorce issues can be resolved by three ways. All of them are regarded as much superior to the court methods.
Work out solutions together
Both you and your partner (more...)