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The Psychotherapist’s Guide To Healing & Transformation After Divorce

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It’s intimidating to spill our guts to a stranger, even when that person is a highly trained and licensed professional. Many of us feel that making an appointment with a psychotherapist means that there is “something wrong” with us. Rachel Sussman allays any fears you might have about seeking counseling. Rachel is a licensed psychotherapist located in New York City, but she helps individuals and couples all over North America with (more...)

The Painful Truths About Child Custody Battles You Need To Know

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The ugliness and hurtful allegations that seem common to celebrity divorces, are also mainstays of many custody fights. There are painful truths about custody battles you need to know.
They’re always ugly, always expensive and once started, there’s rarely any backtracking. Once the accusations have been made, there’s no taking them back. They can’t be erased.
The impact these battles have can spread far and wide. The children at the (more...)

What To Do About Your Maiden Name In Divorce

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Guest Post by Vania Silva
Divorce is never an easy process; yet planning ahead for the changes in your life can aid in making the adjustment phase easier. Separating from a spouse will unquestionably impact every aspect of your life: from your finances, emotional health, and even your name.
Reverting to a maiden name after a divorce provides a sense of a clean slate and one that doesn’t constantly remind you of what the last few (more...)

Smart Divorce: Table of Contents

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Contents
YOUR FIRST VISIT I
Welcome. IIIQuestions to Ask Your Lawyer VWhat are your practice areas and credentials? VAre you trained in alternative forms of dispute resolution? VCan you tell me, in advance, how much this divorce is going to cost and will you guarantee that price? VHow many cases do you handle at one time? VICan I Count On You? VIIOur Promises to You VIIPromise One: We treat you like a person not a case number. VIIPromise Two: (more...)

Achieving Your Best Outcome

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Now that you have worked through the issues of property, alimony, custody, and child support, the last step you need to take to finish this process is to actually finalize your divorce. Ironically, the absolute divorce is generally the easiest and simplest element of a divorce—it is, basically, the official and public statement that the two of you no longer wish to be married. From a legal perspective, it is important that you take this final step; (more...)

Collaborative Divorce

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The next stop along the Spectrum of Control, if kitchen-table negotiations clearly aren’t going to work, is collaborative divorce.
Collaborative Divorce – A No-Court, Solutions-Based Approach
How can you divide twelve oranges in half and still give both parties twelve oranges? Depending on the part of the orange each wants (the zest or the meat), the division can be fast, simple, and mutually gratifying—as long as both parties understand what is valuable to the other. (more...)

Mediation

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Mediation is the most common dispute resolution option; however, it is often misunderstood. Mediation allows you and your spouse to reach a fair settlement with the help of a third, neutral party called a mediator. Mediators, who can be lawyers, mental health professionals, clergy, or other professionals trained in alternative dispute resolution techniques, help you and your spouse identify and resolve issues. Basically, mediation is similar to sitting down to negotiate with the help of a referee.
The most (more...)

Lawyer-Led Negotiation

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The question of whether you need an attorney to handle your divorce is one that was not commonly asked a couple of decades ago. But times have changed, and today it is not uncommon for people to get divorced without any assistance from an attorney. Others are using attorneys in new ways, as the availability of alternative and complementary services increases. Law firms are restructuring in order to meet client needs, and many offer one-stop shopping, including financial planning, (more...)

Litigation

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In our experience, most clients, even those who initially come into our office determined to wreak havoc in the ex’s life, ultimately settle down and come to recognize that settling the case is far preferable to a living through a trial. But some clients have to take a long, hard look at themselves and their situation before they reach that acceptance of this change in their lives. A certain amount of clarity and level-headedness will go a (more...)

Arbitration

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Arbitration is yet another alternative dispute resolution option that involves a third party called an arbitrator. Basically, arbitration is a private trial in which the parties have hired their own “judge,” and have agreed to abide by that person’s ruling. Arbitrators, unlike mediators, are professionals trained to hear testimony, take evidence, and issue actual decisions for the couple. These experts are often attorneys and/or retired judges.
When a couple decides to arbitrate their case, (more...)