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How Faith Can Help You Get Back On Track During Divorce

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faith and divorce | Since My Divorce | divorce coachingOften people think about divorce as something destructive and stressful. Seeing the plans that you’ve built with your beloved being shattered is terrible to experience. And it is also frightening to be alone, not knowing how to start over.

Divorce can be compared to a metaphor of a shattered vase. As something destructive, it can also be the foundation to build something new. But it is really hard to make this happen when you don’t have faith.

Faith gives us the strength to change something, as we believe that someone will guide us to our happiness. God is our guardian, who invisibly helps us overcome difficult stages in our life. So faith can help you get through anything. Still not sure? Here are five reasons.

“Put your hope in God…” (Psalm 42:5)

Hopelessness is the feeling that takes over our minds and souls when we’re going through a divorce. Moving past hopelessness is difficult; this is the emotion that describes the very essence of divorce for many people.

When we marry someone, we make a promise that the marriage will never break up by saying “till death do us apart”. But here you are, divorcing your spouse and feeling completely discouraged.

Remember, that God never wants you to feel that way; despondency is the Devil’s weapon against hope. But only your faith and hope can get you through this pain and heal your wounds.

“I have told you these things, so that in Me you may have peace…” (John 16:33)

Peace is the cure to heal after a break-up and find happiness. But it’s so hard to find it when your mind and soul are confused. You may feel that your happiness is far away, you’re feeling perplexed, overwhelmed and abandoned.

Whatever you may feel, you should always remember that there’s God inside your heart, and He will never abandon you. God is Love and He brings peace to everyone, who’s lost their way and got scared and confused.

Having a habit of waking up in the morning and feeling grateful to God is a way to find peace. Learning about how to achieve it is an ongoing process that will take some time but it’s totally worth it.

“When anxiety was great within me, Your consolation brought joy to my soul” (Psalm 94:19)

While feeling hatred is normal in a divorce, it only brings you anxiety and fatigue. This is a negative emotion that breaks your heart and soul even more. But is it possible to feel happiness and joy again, when all you see is the shatters of your failed marriage?

Faith and joy go hand in hand. When you have faith, you have something to look up to. This makes you feel uplifted and cheerful, as you find sense in life. And although it’s hard to get through the painful experience of the divorce, faith in God and joy will help you overcome this pain.

“’For I know the plans I have for you’, declares the Lord, ‘plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future’” (Jeremiah 29:11)

The common feeling you experience after divorce is that there’s no visible happy future for you. Divorce often results in ruined plans and shattered dreams, which makes it hard to believe in a bright future.

This feeling can even make it hard to function in everyday life. “When my divorce was finalized, I felt abandoned, confused and scared”, says Mark Edmonds, a writer from Pro Writing. “But when I spoke to my pastor, he helped me understand that God holds something greater for me”. God is our only hope, and for He is love, He has only good things in store for us.

“Come to me, all you who labor and are heavy laden, and I will give you rest” (Matthew 11:28)

After a divorce, it’s unavoidable that you will start experiencing loneliness. This feeling crawls into your mind and heart and is a poison for your soul. While there are many ways how to deal with the loneliness of divorce, like calling a friend or staying with your family for some time, it hits you again and again when you are alone, on your own in your apartment.

Every time you’re feeling lonely, remember that God has made a promise not to leave you because all of us are his children. And He always keeps that promise, no matter what. Pray to God each time you feel lonely, and you’ll feel that he’s listening and comforting you every time you feel abandoned.

We often forget that God is always there for us when we need consolation and help. And in painful situations like divorce, we often realize that He is the only guide can help us get through. May God be with you and comfort you when you feel abandoned.

Lucy Benton is a writing coach, an editor who finds her passion in expressing own thoughts as a blogger, and currently works at She is constantly looking for the ways to improve her skills and expertise. If you’re interested in working with Lucy, you can find her on FaceBook and Twitter.


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