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Dating Advice: Mixed Signals Means She’s Mixed Up

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Here is an email from a reader (in his late-twenties and recently divorced) seeking dating advice. He is seeing a woman who is 7 years older than he is. The two have known each other for awhile, and she reached out to him when she heard he was divorced.
 
After she had reached out to me, I asked if we could get together over a drink/dinner to simply catch up. We ended up meeting for dinner the (more...)

Your ADHD Child and Homework

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Minimising homework and study battles with your attention deficit disorder (ADD /ADHD) child & helping them succeed in homework is often about separating out the tasks into 20 minute chunks and reinforcing their positive behaviour with specific praise.
Below are some hints, tips and techniques to get you started.
When?
Plan homework for a set time every day & be consistent. Pick a time that suits your child, not necessarily you! Perhaps your child is (more...)

HELP – It’s the Horrible Homework Hour!

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They’re home, they’re fed, the telly’s off and now it’s the Homework Horror Hour!
A recent survey carried out by the Government’s “Get On” Campaign reveals that 7 in 10 parents are wary of helping their children with their homework and are finding it increasingly difficult to understand and lend a hand in their children’s schoolwork.
Children live and learn in two worlds – home (more...)

Post-Divorce Mediation Part II: The Outcomes

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{4:00 minutes to read}  Paul and Naomi When Paul and Naomi divorced, Paul was working toward a Ph.D. Once completed, he was offered a prestigious position at a university two hours from his home. Paul and Naomi could not agree on how their parenting schedule should change.  (To read more, click here.) The Outcome: Paul [...]

The Insult

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How can words or minor interpersonal tensions lead to major trauma and in some cases national trauma?  As a conflict professional, I am constantly intrigued by the power of words, actions and inaction. An act or expression may or may not be intended to cause harm.  Even in a close-knit family, we sometimes do not realize the harm.  Once an initial event happens, how do we avoid escalating the harm? 
I saw a brilliant film (more...)

Loveless – What Happens When A Divorcing Couple Can’t Escape A Conflict Trap? A Mediator’s Review

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The Russian film Loveless, directed by Andrey Zvyagintsev, is an intense, provocative drama that can be viewed on many levels.    It is a comment on what happens when a marriage breaks down as well as a critique of modern Russian society.  I found that there were aspects of the story that also apply to our American society.  When the film begins, Boris and Zhenya are already going through a divorce.  Their twelve-year old (more...)

Best interest of the Children: A Renewed Take on the Brangelina Case Study: It Doesn’t Have To Be This Way!

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Divorce and custody disputes are often material for tabloid front pages. Celebrity splits never seem to fall out of favor in the media, even though there are alternative and appropriate dispute resolution methods designed to minimize the hostility. Headlines for years have centered on Brad Pitt and Angelina Jolie – the once happy Hollywood couple nicknamed Brangelina by the media. The couple filed for divorce almost two years ago, yet updates on their relationship continue.. Just recently, reports came (more...)

What Do We Owe Each Other? Mediation Is A Self-Selecting Process.

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Couples that select mediation are often looking for 3 things: 1) fairness, 2) to make their own decisions, and 3) a more economical way to reach resolution of their marital and family situation. 
Fairness:  Even in a high-conflict situation, most couples are seeking fairness.  While it may be difficult to set aside historically challenging personal dynamics, it is possible in most cases because ultimately parties want to move on with their lives.  Determining whether an (more...)

Should ‘Fireman Sam’ become ‘Firefighter Sam’ ?

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I’m discussing Ann Millington, chief executive of Kent Fire & Rescue’s suggestion that the children’s TV character Fireman Sam should be renamed ‘Firefighter Sam’ on BBC Radio Kent
It strikes me as a good idea – what do you think?
I think all programming should be diversified, for the benefit of all children, whatever their gender.
When you ‘Pause to Ponder’ you’ll start to notice that gender (more...)

空気が良いお家にリフォームを行いましょう

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今年の9月に発売されたパナホームの商品がちょっとすごいので、ご紹介させていただきます。

ハイテク技術がかなり搭載されており、これはリフォームでも大いに参考になると思います。

「エコ・コルディス2」という戸建て商品で、HEMSと空気質へのこだわりを感じさせる内容になっています。

エココルディスは空気のリフォームを行ってくれます

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前回のモデル「ウェルネス」にも採用されていた換気システムをより進化させて、空気中のPM2.5はもちろん、より微細で除去が困難とされるPM0.5の除去にも対応しています。

0.3µm(マイクロメートル)の微粒子を99.97%除去する「HEPAフィルター」が搭載されています。これによって、屋外から吸気される空気を浄化して室内の空気環境を快適に保ってくれます。

これはリフォーム業界ではまだ真似のできない技術となっています。

技術力が素晴らしいリフォーム店は地元の口コミをチェック!

http://柏市リフォーム.xyz/

家をスマートハウスにリフォームしよう

またスマートハウス面のHEMSも今回のモデルではすごく、管理コントローラーにはタブレット端末の「プライベート・ビエラ」が採用されています。

光熱費の収支状況やエアコンのコントロール、窓やシャッターの開閉を可能にしています。また玄関の電気錠も手元のタブレットで操作できるようになっているというのですから、驚きです。

これは今までのライフスタイルをガラっと替えるもので、電気の消し忘れ、エアコンの消し忘れなど子供にイチイチ口うるさく言わなくてもタブレットで確認、操作できます。

余計な親子げんかが減って、必要な部分に親子の時間を割いていけそうですね。まさにスマート、といえます。

HEMSをリフォームで導入して快適なお家にしましょう

リフォームでもHEMSを利用することはできますが、実際に採用されているところはまだあまりありません。

HEMSは対応機器とソフトが必要になってくるため、どちらかというと新築で1から組みたてていくような場面で活用されています。しかし、中央コントロール形のHEMS、魅力的ですよね。

新築とリフォームって別モノのように考える方もいらっしゃいますが、夢を抱くという点では共通していますし、新築の方が技術的に進んでいる事も多いので、リフォームとして参考にできる部分は活かしていきたいですよね。