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Nesting 101: Is a parenting nesting arrangement right for your family?

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The term “nesting” is used to describe an arrangement where the children remain in the family home while the divorcing parents take turns living in the family home and in another location. (The parents move in and out of the home rather than the children moving between homes.) Nesting is an option that some parents consider as a transitional parenting arrangement because they  want to keep the children’s living arrangements in place for a (more...)

Find Grace With Gratitude & Forgiveness

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Sometimes in life when we feel that the challenges we face are insurmountable, it can be difficult to feel thankful for much of anything.  Yet gratitude is exactly what is needed in the most challenging of days. Taking a moment during the chaos to breathe into what’s right among all that is wrong, is an act of grace and grounding.
“Gratitude makes sense of our past, brings peace for today, and creates a (more...)

What’s Your Relationship With Money?

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Divorce can feel like quite a shock to the system. Everything you thought you knew has changed. It may cause many to reevaluate their relationships with friends, family and themselves. You may also reevaluate your relationship with money.
Because of the financial strain of divorce, and the division of assets, it may become apparent that you have strong emotions around money. In fact, finances could be the reason for the strain in your marriage.
What is your relationship with (more...)

How to Make Extra Money After Divorce

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With the holidays in full swing, it can be tempting to overindulge, especially if you’re going through a divorce. You may want to spoil yourself or your children so that the sting of life changes don’t sting quite as bad.
The National Retail Federation is already predicting the average American will spend over $1000 on holiday shopping this year. It all feels good at the time but when the credit card bill arrives those feelings (more...)

There Is No Easy Or Quick Way To Heal From Divorce

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We all need to heal from divorce. That applies just as much to the person who initiates the divorce as the person whose spouse makes the decision.
The healing process stirs up a lot of feelings and hurts from our childhood and family of origin, our societal and cultural norms and expectations and, of course from the marriage itself and previous committed relationships.
It’s no wonder many people avoid the work of healing! Yet, if you skip (more...)

Stressed About the Holidays? Here’s What to Do.

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Well, Thanksgiving is done and we’ve survived Black Friday but we’re not through the holiday abyss yet.
This means we’ll most likely be dreading the stress, craziness, and visions of perfection shoved down our throats.
For many of us, the holidays can feel dark, lonely, and stressful—especially if we are going through or recovering from divorce. Instead of looking forward to beautiful decorations, the smell of baking pies, and holiday (more...)

Wants vs Needs: How Much Life Insurance Do You Really Need?

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{2:00 minutes to read}  Many couples who are going through a divorce are struggling to find a way to live separately on the income that was previously supporting only one household. This often means reviewing their expenses in order to find ways to either cut back or eliminate some of them. When I am doing [...]

Demystifying Attorney’s Fees

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One of the biggest hurdles to climb when considering legal representation is usually the attorney’s fees. Attorney fee rates vary largely from not just one firm to another but also from one city to another. When it comes to hiring an attorney, false assumptions about their fees and associated expenses can have a detrimental effect on your case and be very costly to you. This makes it very important to ask the right questions and have a (more...)

How I Adjusted to the ‘New Normal’ of Divorce

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(despite the fact that the words "new normal" might make your skin crawl)
During the onset of my divorce I remember when my therapist said to me:

“You will need to adjust to this, because this is your new normal." I thought I was going to be physically ill. I despised that sentence; every word of it but particularly “NEW NORMAL”…

When did expectations change around potty training and fall into the role of the Primary School Teacher & why do today’s parents find potty training so tough?

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70% of British primary schoolteachers have noticed a rise in the number of 3-7-year olds wetting themselves during the school day.
As a former Deputy Head and Class Teacher for 22 years I also taught 35 five-year olds in Reception but I certainly didn’t think it was my job to toilet train the children in my Class. Of course, children have accidents and of course kindness, compassion and patience were all part of supporting the child.
But (more...)