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How To Take Your Emotions Out Of Your Divorce Negotiations

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Divorce professionals will tell you that it’s best to approach your settlement discussions as a business discussion but how do you take your emotions out of your divorce negotiations?
First, let’s briefly review why these discussions need to be more about business than emotions:
the legal system is not set up to resolve disagreements based on moral arguments. The judges are bound by statutes and case law and these likely will not provide resolution (more...)

How To Get Your Ex Out Of Your Mind

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As you navigate your divorce, a pervasive struggle is learning to get your ex out of your mind. Whether it is because of anger, heartache, jealously, or sadness, the emotions surrounding the person we were married to have a way of making it hard to move forward.
Those emotions can creep up on you when you least expect it, especially when the split wasn’t exactly amicable.
So, the next time you start thinking about your ex&(more...)

How To Choose A Divorce Recovery Program That Will Work For You

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How often have you read about or heard someone reflecting back on their divorce, how awful it was at the time, how it wasn’t their choice and yet, how they wouldn’t go back to that marriage again, how much they’ve learned since then and how much they themselves have changed?
Compare that to the person who talks bitterly about their ex, even years afterwards, the person who doesn’t have a new (more...)

How To Overcome Unfairness In Divorce

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It happens to the best of us. We navigate divorce, trying our hardest to be logical and rise about the drama and pettiness of our former partners, but every once in a while, the feeling hits.
Fairness. Unfairness. The feeling like we’ve been screwed over during divorce.
You know exactly what I’m talking about. Do any of the following sound like things you have said or thought?
“It’s not fair that my (more...)

What Is An Exit Affair And How To Survive One

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Truth be told, extra-marital affairs are not unusual. Some studies report that 60 percent of married partners report having engaged in affairs. Some couples are able to recover and reconcile from infidelity and report a stronger relationship afterwards. But that’s not easy and more often, the affair will lead to the eventual end of the marriage.
In some cases, the person having the affair already sees the marriage as being over and the affair becomes the way (more...)

How To Love Where You Are … Even If Your Divorce Stinks!

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In my neck of the woods, the promise of spring is starting to appear. The once-barren trees now have cherry blossoms peaking out. And the air—the type that freezes the inside of the nostrils and hits the chest so it’s hard to breathe —is little by little warming up and not feeling so miserable.
Every morning when I go out to walk my dog, I say to myself, “Wow, I can’t (more...)

How To Protect Yourself From Getting Hurt After Divorce

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Regardless of who decides to end the marriage, there are always upset feelings and most people want to know how to protect themselves from getting hurt after divorce.
The key to that is boundaries. Just like fences and locks we use to protect our property, we establish all sorts of boundaries with others to help protect us from harm. These boundaries however are not as simple or obvious as a gate or a padlock. They’re (more...)

What Is It With Divorce And Travel Adventures?

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Elizabeth Gilbert’s book, Eat, Pray, Love uncovered and publicized something that many people do after the end of their marriage: an epic journey. This is not about a getaway with girlfriends or the guys or a long overdue vacation. This is about pushing the boundaries and doing something very different for you – an adventure, an exploration, a quest. So what is it about divorce and travel adventures?
Clearly, not everyone is in a position to take (more...)

How To Gain Clarity After Divorce

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Divorce sure has a way of messing up your life, doesn’t it? Everyday life—and everything you have planned and worked for and envisioned—can seem like it’s now a freight train that has completely derailed. This feeling can cause anxiety and overwhelm, making you feel like you are lost and not sure what to do, or what direction your life should go from here. You may struggle to gain clarity after divorce.

Is Your Heart Open to Receiving or Recovering Love?

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For many in the world, February is a month to celebrate love, from hopeful new beginnings to anniversaries of love that has stood the test of time.  And yet, there are those who have loved so fiercely and lost so deeply, that February is nothing more than a painful reminder of what once was.

If you’ve lost a loved one, it’s important to remember that healing and recovery is possible…and necessary.  (more...)